Better, Not Bitter: 3 Effective Strategies For Engaging A Co-Parent Who Won’t Parent : Good Enough Mother

Better, Not Bitter:
3 Effective Strategies For Engaging A Co-Parent
Who Won’t Parent

We all know them. The non-custodial parent who is barely involved in their child’s life. They could be there for them but their priorities are in the wrong place. They are focused on themselves or their new relationship or whatever. But you, as the custodial parent have to try to figure out how to help your child deal with their feelings about their parent who is starting to check out of their life.

It’s painful to a child when their dad or mom doesn’t call or see them often.

It hurts a lot when there are no overnight visits or weekends together.

When a child doesn’t get to spend one-on-one time with their non-custodial parent it can make them sad. I have dealt with this myself when my ex got really busy and didn’t realize how much time had passed since he and our youngest had some special time together – which our son really needs. But I know this kind of issue can turn into a situation that creates conflict. You also don’t want to beg someone to do what they are supposed to do.

So how do you engage the other parent who is around less and less to become more active and involved with their child?

3. Dial Back Your Ego

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Don't get upset if the other parent doesn't communicate back to you but simply contacts the child directly, especially if your child has their own cell phone. The goal of sending the info was to get him to interact with the child - not you. Don't get it twisted.

I know it’s hard sometimes being the bigger person when folks don’t do what they should do regarding parenting. The important thing to remember is your child needs both parents to be involved in their lives. If there is a way to help facilitate that, I think you should.

Do you have other suggestions for custodial parents trying to get the other parent more involved? Share in the comments.