*Are you happy at the moment?
Yes – but it takes work. To be in a happy place mentally and physically takes effort. Mentally, it means facing your demons, imperfections, hurt, regret and shame, which is yucky, but without which leads to an inauthentic life. Physically, it means prioritizing the work necessary to feel physically healthy AND that can be tricky on the days I’d rather sit on the couch with chocolate chip cookies watching reality TV.
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
Slow down. Your childhood is a beautiful thing and so is your sexuality, but slow down. Cherish both and be mindful of the choices you make.
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
For better or worse, I love to check the “complete” box. I think it finally hit home that there are some things in life that will never be complete.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
This last winter, the idea of Cupcake Moments was born – the concept of savoring small but significant positive occurrences of life that often go unrecognized because of the hustle of daily life. I never fancied myself an author, but this would be my second book and I hope to have a rough draft manuscript completed.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Finding my own personal formula for happiness is my secret to well-being. Everyone’s formula is different and I believe, I’ve finessed mine enough that I know what is ideal for me. Being present as a mother and wife is a big factor, but not the only one. I also need to have a sense of personal and professional self, which I find through my friends and work. Finally, I’ve also realized over the years that I need a spiritual element which I find through volunteering.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Coffee in the morning! (daily ritual) AND vacations (practice that refuels my spirit and keeps me grounded long term). I’m guessing that this is where some might answer, “yoga,” “meditation,” “prayer,” but for me a cup of coffee in the morning helps me ground my day. Over coffee I ask myself, “What do I wish to accomplish today?” (daily tasks needed maintain) AND “What do I want to do to move my bigger goals forward?” (gritty work). It’s also a time for giggles, brain exercises, and gratitude. I love a good giggle from a funny post and enjoy some type of daily puzzle – word or number. Finally, I often try to write down three things that occurred the prior day I’m grateful for and why they happened.
*What’s your biggest regret?
I’m going to go with the first thing that popped into my head when I read the question. I have plenty of regrets about “stupid” things that I’ve said without thinking first, but what I thought of first happened 40+ years ago when I was in elementary school. A girl with a physical disability wanted to be my partner and I said no. Makes me sad to this day that I hurt her. I realize that my response was out of fear, but even at age seven I could see the pain I inflicted.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
Make shared memories. My children probably can’t tell you what Christmas presents they got two years ago, but they can tell you about the August we trekked gorillas.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
My day starts with coffee and often ends with wine so if I’m being completely honest, I’d say wine in the evening. There are healthier ways to close out the day.
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
In the span of seven months, I lead the unification and renovations of the county’s domestic violence shelter. When the project began, it was slated to be a good scrubbing, some new paint and new flooring, but it snowballed. Without a budget, I was able to coordinated 5000 volunteer hours, raise 30K in monetary donations, and procure 250K in in-kind donations. At the end of seven months, the coordination of effort resulted in the remodeling of 2 floors, 6000 square feet for crisis housing and transitional housing. Two kitchens, two family rooms, three offices, and 10 bedrooms were transformed into a place of healing.
*When were you happiest?
That’s a tough one because there a lots of happy times, but the happiest? If I had to pick my most recent happiest time, it would probably be December 27, 2015 to January 4th 2016. We were away as a family with limited interruption from the “outside” world. My son was home from college, my daughter didn’t have her crazy dance demands,and my middle guy wasn’t worried about SATs. We were just “us” again – we were able to reconnect as a family – and that felt really good.
*What ten words best describe you?
Determined, Creative, Reliable, Goofy, Smart, Genuine, Kind, Goal Oriented, Sincere, & Loving
Julie Kaminski is about making happy, healthy, sexy easier. I will help you find the tools, tricks, tactics and tips that work for you and for your home. You are unique and what inspires to be your best is also unique.
For over twenty five years I have been an ACE, (American Counsel on Exercise) certified instructor and trainer. The addition of a Master in Counseling Psychology and licensure as a Wellness Coach brought together the full appreciation and knowledge base on wellness and well being. It is this combination of education, experience, and passion that come together as a unique skill set in the field of wellness and well-being. I love what I do – inspiring people to be happier and healthier.
As a mother of three balancing family, marriage, work, home and self, the ideal lifestyle is elusive. But I value my health and happiness. And I believe that if you are as happy and healthy as possible, the natural fallout is a feeling of flourishing…the quiet confidence that you can handle the world with an authentic “I love life” attitude. And that is SEXY, regardless of body size, heel height or fashion trend. If you are flourishing, those around will experience the positive domino effects. We all deserve, NEED, to feel happy, healthy and yes….sexy.
The Flourishing Home is about getting your home to work for you. Everything under your roof matters, whether you realize it or not. Your home can support or deter your efforts for improved wellness and well-being. Experience has helped refine the tools, tricks, tactics and tips that I offer that work in the real world. I will help you make inspired spaces for enlightened living.
Inspired Wellness is also about making wellness and well being easier through direct work with you, your group or your organization. Small groups are a passion of mine, as well as the personal touch of helping people experience their own “light bulb” moments of insight.