What Can I Do About My Friend’s Bratty Kids?
I have a problem and need your advice. I have had more then my share of being around friends and family whose kids are a handful so I’m not naive by any stretch of the imagination. But what is it with parents whose kids act like complete brats, yet they sit there and do nothing? I don’t get it!
I have a couple of good friends who have children act out, scream at her, misbehave in public places, just all manner of bad behavior, yet she does nothing. It’s almost like she’s immune to the screaming! I, however, am not and it’s literally exhausting to be around. Every so often, one of them will do the “count to three” thing and threaten time out but then doesn’t follow through.
I’m old school, Rene. I don’t believe in time out; I believe in TIME’S UP! So my question Rene is will you tell a friend her kids are brats and you’d rather her not bring them around if she can’t control them?
Get Your Kids Under Control!
I feel your pain on this one. I have been around friends whose kids regularly showed their butts – but you know what I did? I bit my tongue until it bled in some cases. You know why? Because there are few things that will ruin a friendship faster than telling someone else how to raise their kids or that they’re doing it wrong. Having said that though, I do think you have a few options.
1. Speak Volumes Without Saying A Word
If you haven’t already, you need to learn how to administer, swiftly and deftly, the heart-stopping stare. This typically works best with your own children but can be used on offspring other than your own. It works something like this; Drop your chin and lift only your eyes. Make sure they are absolutely devoid of emotion and give the cold, hard stare. Hold it for a bit longer than you think necessary, preferably until the offending party looks away. You may also curl your lip into a slight sneer for added impact. If the kid sees it, great; if he/she sees it and mom does too, all the better. She might actually be embarrassed enough to say something.