Life Lessons:
Robert Cantrall


*Are you happy at the moment?

Yes! Today I am doing what I want to do. More importantly I am doing what I feel called to do. And I am having a positive effect on other people’s lives.

*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?

Be yourself, your true self. Not what anybody else wants you to be, tells you, you are or try’s to make you into. Listen to and trust you intuition, for it is your true self.

*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?

I don’t think I can limit the many life lessons I’ve learned to just one, so I’ve decided to highlight the most valuable three to me.

One of the most important is the knowledge and understanding that everything I do comes out of the need to feel good and be happy. Every action that I take to achieve feeling good and being happy either comes from a place of love or a place of fear. The life lesson is that I get to choose whether I speak and act out of love or fear to myself and others.

Another important and intertwined life lesson is that everybody else just wants to be liked too. I learned that, instead of wasting all my energy on trying to be liked, if I spend my energy on liking others than likely they will like me in return. This can be expressed in the smallest and biggest ways, from simply saying hi to a stranger to making sure you tell your closest relationships that you love them.

The final life lesson that I want to make sure I pass on is the importance of living in the moment. Yesterday is in the past, tomorrow is in the future, so the only day you really have is today and the only moment you really have is this moment. Don’t regret the past, don’t worry about the future, just remember what a valuable gift each moment is and give it all the attention it deserves.

*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?

I want to reach as many people as possible with my story of inspiration. My message is; if I can do it, you can do it do.

*What’s your secret to happiness?

To love others as I love myself. The true happiness that I seek comes not from doing things to please myself but from loving others. This is why we say it is better to give than to receive during the holiday season.

*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?

Again this challenge of limiting to just one. Gratitude! Stop and be grateful every day. For people and experiences especially. Not so much for financial and material things all though you should be grateful for this too

*What’s your biggest regret?

I have no regrets and I have learned there are no wrong decisions. Anytime I am tempted to regret a decision I stop and remember that I am the sum total of all my decisions and experiences. And today I am the happiest I have ever been.

*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?

The thing about parenthood is that it is a learning experience. So I have to say the most important lesson they taught me was that it’s more important to be happy than right. But according to them, the most important lesson I taught them was “that unconditional love and truth can bring you to places in your life that were unexpected and glorious all at the same time, no matter the time or distance. Everything happens at the right time for the right things to happen.”

*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?

To stop asking myself if there are any bad habits about myself that I would like to change. I am the best me I have ever been and I need only to accept myself just as I am.

*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?

Publishing my book. The Fall of My Life. I have won a lot of awards, certificates, ribbons, medals and trophies throughout my life but this is my crowning jewel.

*When were you happiest?

I am the happiest I have ever been right now. And what I am really excited about is that by the way I am choosing to live my life, I am very confident that if you ask me this same question next year, I will give the same answer.

*What ten words best describe you?

Oddly enough I just took a survey of my twenty closest friends for another venture and this is what they said, in order of highest occurrence. Resilient, Courageous, Transparent, Authentic, Caring, Willing, Insightful, Dependable, Optimistic and Nuts.


Robert Cantrall was employed at WaMu when it failed in 2008. He lost his job, his house, his boat and his car. He got divorced and filed bankruptcy. He has also buried all of his grand parents, parents, siblings and two uncles. One of his books is about how he Transformed that Tragedy into Triumph. His other book “The Fall of My Life” is all about his life lessons.