Life Lessons:
Dana Carpenter


*Are you happy at the moment?

Yes, very happy now.

*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?

Learn to accept shades of gray in people, just because someone is everything you think they should be doesn’t make them a bad person and it doesn’t have to scare you.

*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?

To stop being a victim of my own emotion after reading “living beyond your feelings” by Joyce Meyer.

*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?

A better relationship with my step kids – for us to learn to communicate, trust, love and respect everyone’s role in my husband’s life.

*What’s your secret to happiness?

Prayer, knowing that God has always had my back and he has even greater things waiting for me, but only when I am ready to receive them emotional, mentally, physically and spiritually.

*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?

Talking to my mother who can deliver a bitter truth…its wrapped on love, but still bitter.

*What’s your biggest regret?

Letting my emotions get the best of me during my current marriage.

*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?

There is no need to use someone else as a measuring stick against yourself…i.e. how too often black women compare themselves to white women…why its apples to oranges; both are unique, have excellent qualities, have a purpose and limitations; however an apple will never be an orange and vice a versa and that’s ok.

*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?

Not exercising…I have become very stagnant in the past 3 years which has cause serious weight gain.

*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?

Always having a perspective very different from most, I have never thought of myself as less than just because I came for the “hood.”

*When were you happiest?

When I was walking at least 5 -6 miles daily, just 3 years ago.

*What ten words best describe you?

Confident, loyal, self-assured, hard worker, inquisitive, adventurous, kind, loving, friendly, honest.


Dana is currently on her 2nd marriage. Her and her spouse have been together since 2006 and got married in 2011. She has 5 step kids ( 2 adult males 31 & 27 and 3 girls, 21, 17 and 16) and works as an the assistant to the VP of North America Sales for a technology company. She does not have any kids of her own. She enjoys traveling, gardening and trying new things different from what most do…she doesn’t follow trends and she lives on the East Coast.