Tales From A Twin Mom: 4 Things Mothers Of Multiples Need To Stop RIGHT NOW!
It’s the beginning of a new year. Many take this opportunity to start fresh. We tell ourselves that we need to kick bad habits, and improve both ourselves and our ways. I’ve always been weary of this, but like every other person out there, I make my list and dive right in. What I have discovered is that the things that I put on my list-beyond the usual “healthy me, exercise more” fallacies are the ones that actually make it to the end of the year.
As mothers, we need to make an effort to stop doing at least one of these things. Why? It’s simple. If we continue doing these things we will poison our minds, and thus, ourselves. So what could possibly be on my list? Read and find out. When you’re done, let me know what I missed. I learn as much from all of you as you hopefully learn from me!
4. Don't Expect Others To Be Mind Readers
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When you need help, ask for it. Don't expect family and friends to know when you're at your breaking point. This also goes for your partner. If they're not around most of the day, they have no idea what you're going through or what you need. If you wait to be asked in order to get some time to yourself, you may never get it. I know you probably think that you should be able to care for your babies on your own, but sometimes that's just not the case. Take advantage of those that offer their help. Everyone needs a break-especially parents of multiples! You'd be surprised at how many people you know would love to help! Basically, it's essential to maintain a positive outlook while going through the rigors of multiple parenting. Keep a rational perspective about what is in and out of your control, and know that the hard part doesn't last forever. You can make the bigger issues into long term goals, and take that help whenever possible to cover your short term well-being. Remember-if you want to provide the best care for your babies, it must start with maintaining a healthy you!
Julixa Newman, is a published writer/author, and the president of Stuff4Multiples.com. Born in Puerto Rico and raised in New York City, Julixa founded Stuff 4 Multiples in 2009, shortly after giving birth to twin girls. Her articles about parenting multiples are featured on several parenting websites, as well as in such magazines as Twins and Sixty Second Parent. She is also an entrepreneur who has designed several products geared at making parenting twins easier, including the TwinTrexx twin baby carrier and the award winning Twingaroo twin baby carrier!