My Friends Are Fighting – Get Me Out Of Here!
Claire, Linda and I have been friends since high school. We’ve shared everything with each other, through good times and bad. We’ve had a few disagreements over the years, but have always worked them out and kept our friendships intact. Until now.
Claire and Linda had a huge fight and are now not speaking to each other. I thought the two of them would eventually work it out, but it’s been almost six months now.
I’ve been able to keep my friendship going with each of them by staying out of the disagreement. In the beginning neither one wanted to talk about the fight or each other, so I remained friends with each of them separately. But the truth is I miss our circle of three friendship.
The other day, Claire told me that she didn’t think I should be friends with Linda anymore. Claire thinks that as a true friend I should choose a side and pick one friend over the other. I really don’t want to lose either of their friendships but feel that I may end up losing them both.
Rene, should I choose sides or better yet how can I get my friends back together?
I’m going to start with the end of your letter first. You asked, “should I choose sides or better yet how can I get my friends back together?” No, and you cannot. Here’s why . . .