Hey everyone! How ya’ feeling this beautiful Monday morning?
The other day I was talking with someone about the things that women talk about; the weather, fitness, life and so much more. In listening to her talk it dawned on me that her perspective on life was drastically different from my own. I believe it’s not so much what happens to me but how I choose to deal with what happens. She was the sort who saw it as an uphill slog, and an unexpected one since she expected life to be fair (who does THAT?).
When we went our separate ways, I started thinking more about her and what the rest of her life would look like, since her perspective was that the deck of life was stacked against her.
It’s not that I don’t have problems; please.. I have many. We all do! I just don’t talk about them, I try not to post about them and I do everything in my power to make the best of bad situations.
Many of you know my story; in two years I lost my high profile job, then had a preventive double mastectomy and finally, while out on a book tour promoting Good Enough Mother, I got sick on a plane, ended up in the hospital and ultimately lost my hair. Shortly after all that a very deep and significant depression set in Those were some very dark days and I would be lying if I said I didn’t want to curl up in a ball and cry forever.
I’m not always the most positive person but this much I knew; I had to save myself. I had to do something and pissing, moaning, crying about how unfair my situation was, was not going to get me to where I needed to be.
We all have struggles. The question is what are you doing to turn yours into strengths?
Here are 3 tips to turn things around.
1. Understand That Life Is Not Fair
It truly never ceases to amaze me that people, adults no less, expect that somehow life is going to be fair and then get pissed when it is not. My acquaintance has had a few physical challenges but please, name someone who has not! But focusing on where she has yet to go has hobbled her ability to see the progress she has made. And she's bitter about it. Bottom line: there will always be someone taller, skinnier, have better hair or a bigger bank account. Stop comparing and stop expecting life to be fair.