*Are you happy at the moment?
Yes. Although I have my ups and downs, like everyone, rarely a day goes by where I don’t find some happiness in it.
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
“Don’t let fear keep you from doing EXACTLY what you want to do.” Although I don’t have any regrets in life, I was slow to take advantage of opportunities that would have been transformative and life-changing because of fear. I doubted myself because I wasn’t sure about how the world worked. For example, my 16-year-old self never would have guessed I’d own my own business in my 30’s, because she would have thought, “I don’t know anything about starting a business, therefore I probably never will.”
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
To continue to nurture what you want to grow. Even though a plant can grow with sunshine and rain, both of which are provided by nature, it still will need nurturing during times of heat, freeze, and drought. I had a moment in my business this year that helped me realize nothing can live forever on autopilot.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I want to become known for my life coaching for moms. This is something that so many mothers really could benefit from, and the more mothers are fulfilled, balanced, and living their passions, the more they will connect with other mothers to build a village of support and inspiration, and the more their children will grow up recognizing the importance of balance, peace, and fulfillment.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
I don’t let myself practice negative self-talk. When the doubts or fears creep in, I allow myself to be aware of them, and I replace them with positive self-talk. If you block out the negative thoughts, they will eventually come back to bite you in the butt. If you are aware of them and consciously transform them, you can use them as growing and learning experiences. Reframing your negative self-talk can help with anything you do in life. I use it as a basis of my Find More Time in 7 Days e-Course.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
I do something I love every day. It keeps me from getting caught up in my to-do list and it helps me to feel happy and fulfilled every day. Sometimes this is as simple as taking a long shower. Other times, it’s getting together with friends, playing in nature, practicing a hobby, or just doing something really fun with the family.
*What’s your biggest regret?
As I mentioned before, I really don’t have any regrets in life. If anything, I wish I hadn’t been so nervous to just put myself out there at an early age, but I still don’t regret it… I needed to feel comfortable before I could learn what I needed to and really come into my own.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
Never be afraid to ask for what you want.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I have trouble knowing when to stop. I’m always full of ideas and working on several projects at once. I often have to stop what I’m doing and practice being more mindful and present and remember that I don’t need to do everything at once. This is especially important when I’m around my kids. I want them to understand the importance of self care and leisure time.
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
I was so shy growing up, and I was so afraid to voice my opinion and ask for exactly what I wanted. I worried what people thought of me, and I didn’t always live life to the fullest or express myself because I didn’t want to be judged. Now, I’m the opposite. I am so comfortable with who I am, and I live life confidently, take advantage of opportunities and even make my own amazing opportunities. I’m proud that I gave myself permission to break out of my insecurities and be who I was really meant to be.
*When were you happiest?
I am always the happiest when I’m out in nature, away from the day-to-day routine. Whether it’s camping out at a music festival for a week or hiking in the mountains, I always feel fully connected to nature, myself, my family and the universe during these times, and I feel totally, blissfully happy.
*What ten words best describe you?
I am feisty, creative, driven, curious, intense, empowering, charismatic, refreshing, relatable, and resilient.
Gaby Merediz is a life coach, mother, artist, writer, and entrepreneur. She’s also a nature-lover, a friend who revels in making strong, authentic connections, a wife, and a fiddle player. She is passionate about helping women find themselves and live full, authentic lives. Especially as mothers. When Gaby became a mother, the more she focused only on being the best mom she could be, the more the other aspects of herself drifted further out of reach until she was no longer the creative, passionate, motivated, curious woman she was used to being. She was completely lost.
She spent the next 5 years on a journey back to herself, meeting so many moms along the way who were also lost, and none of them had a map or a guide. Since then, Gaby made it her mission to help moms find themselves again. She is a life coach who provides moms with the roadmap to connect with themselves, find balance in their lives, fulfill their passions and be who they really want to be when they grow up. Gaby owns Make Your Perfect, an online community that offers coaching, connection and guidance for moms. She also owns Tmuffin, a playspace and parents’ community center in Wilmington, NC that provides the village and support that moms need so dearly.