Live, Love, Blend:
How to Win a Mother’s Heart
One of the keys to a successful marriage is realizing that winning someone’s heart is not a “one-and-done” deal. In order to grow together through the ups and downs of life, you must constantly strive to win the heart of the one you love. Part of the fun of spending a lifetime with someone is seeking out new and unique ways to capture and keep your love alive.
(for more on keeping your love alive, see 3 Reasons Blended Parents Need Date Night)
My husband and I will celebrate our 5th anniversary next month. He has won my heart many times. However, last week he did something that wooed me in a whole new way. He bought a bicycle. Sexy, right? Here’s why it made me go weak in the knees.
My 12-year-old son (I call him “my” son so you’ll understand that this is one of the children I brought into our family)… anyway, my 12-year-old is a bit of a video junkie. He loves all things animated and hopes to become a video game designer. Thus I worry about him gaining weight, not getting enough vitamin D and basically spending too much time glued to a screen. So in walks my husband from running errands last weekend and he says to this son in a stern voice, “put on your socks and shoes and come outside.” My inner momma bear went on alert as I thought perhaps my husband was annoyed with the boy. Then I realized something was up. I peaked around the corner of the garage to see my husband and son unloading a brand new bicycle out of the back of the SUV. And then I heard him praise this 6th grader for having a great year at school, setting his own alarm to get up and dressed without parental prompting each morning, and having a great attitude about doing homework and chores.
And here all along I’d thought GIFTS were not one of my love languages! This gift he gave my son meant more to my heart than anything he could have given me. And to top it off he’d used a bonus that he’d just gotten at work; money that wasn’t in our budget and could have been spent on anything he wanted without my ever knowing. He chose to use it to bless our son, and me.
I knew I had to share this lesson. Men, listen up! The way to win a mother’s heart is to love her children.
(If you’re new to blended family life, check out 3 Ways to Get Started with a New Family)