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Ask Rene: My Ex-Boyfriend’s New Girlfriend SPANKED MY KID!


Ask Rene:
My Ex-Boyfriend’s New Girlfriend


Hi Rene:

I am a longtime reader but I don’t think I have seen this topic addressed yet. 

My ex-boyfriend and I were together for four years. I got pregnant very soon in the relationship and we have a son. We share custody of him and so far things have been going pretty well. Until recently.

My ex has a new girlfriend and they have been together just a couple of months. Well, the other day, my son came home and told me that she had spanked him! Needless to say I am FURIOUS!

I haven’t had a chance to talk with my ex about it but I’m pretty sure that when I do, the conversation will not go well. 

Rene, what should I do?


Pissed in Peoria


Dear Pissed:

I’d probably be pissed too but I think cooler heads need to prevail in this case. So let’s look at the facts as we know them and take it from there, shall we? Here’s what I would do if I were you.


3. Lay Groundwork For The Future

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You don't say whether you have any legal paperwork in place between you and your ex. Personally I think that's really important. You are a team in raising your son and that means you both need to be clear important matters like education and discipline. So get it out in the open now; don't make the mistake of thinking that if you don't talk about it, it won't happen. You will be faced with this again (more than likely) so you need to have a roadmap for how to deal with it when it does.

That's what I'm thinking off the top of my head. You got this, mom but there are probably going to be a few uncomfortable conversations along the way. But remember, even though you and your ex are no longer together, you owe it to your son to be team where he is concerned.

That's my advice. What would you say to Pissed in Peoria? Leave a comment here.

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