My Adult Daughter Won’t Speak To Me! Help!
My 23-year-old daughter and I had a falling out and now she has basically cut me off.
She’s become very has become very distant, even going as far as to say she never wants to hear from me again. The problem is she is not a very competent mother of her 5 ½-month-old boy, Xander.
I have always been as supportive as I can be but she won’t listen to me and I cannot stand by and watch her royally screw up Xander. What do you suggest? I do see a psychiatrist every month or two for anxiety and insomnia. How can I get my daughter and/or family to seek counseling with me or even for themselves?
A Stressed Mess
I am sorry you and your daughter are going through this uncomfortable time. I have always thought the mother daughter relationship is one fraught with pitfalls and misunderstandings. But honestly, without knowing more of what’s going on, it’s hard for me to know what to suggest. But with just the high points you have hit here, there are three things to focus on.
2. Take Care Of Yourself
It actually sounds like you have enough on your plate without co-opting the parental duties from your daughter. You need to get yourself healthy; it sounds like you are on the right track seeing the psychiatrist for your anxiety and insomnia. Make sure you do the other old stand by’s, regular exercise and don’t overindulge in the bad-news twins, alcohol and nicotine.