Tales From A Twin Mom:
One On One Time With Your Multiples
Spending one on one time with your children is a privilege that parents of multiples must learn to master. Through my experience with other twin parents, it seems that many of these families spend their days and weeks essentially “teaming up” on the twins-using teamwork to get through the seemingly endless list of chores that comes with being in charge of two at a time. It’s true. Whether they’re infants, toddlers or school age, having twins means a larger diaper bag, an extra set of clothes to wash or pick out for tomorrow, and also an extra lunch to pack. Of course, we all know that twins NEVER eat the same thing to make things easier. (Why can’t they BOTH like salami and apple juice?) Does the lady at the deli counter think I order ¼ lb of meat at a time because I think it’s funny?
Quality time with a child will open the door to honest and revolutionary conversations, and it allows parents of multiples to see their children as individuals instead of parts of a set. Even though they have the same birthday and were roommates for 7-9 months before you even met them, that doesn’t take away from the fact that they are each different in their own way. Spending one on one time does not have to last all day. It can be something as short as 15 minutes if that is all your schedule allows. The main focus is for your child to have your undivided attention. Here are some examples of opportunities that you can use to have that special time.
3. Individual Bedtime Stories
I've been there. You've had a very stressful day and when bedtime rolls around, you ask your twins to agree on one book because that's all you have time for. Stop. Does it really take you that long to read a children's book? Have them select their own bedtime story. Once you're done, ask them why they picked that particular book. It takes 5 minutes and I promise you it will be well worth it! As a mother of four children I completely understand that sometimes it's just not possible to have one on one time. Some of us don't have the luxury of having a babysitter or family member that can help us achieve that one on one time. That's fine, but try to take advantage of the 10-15 minutes that you are alone with your child. This is the perfect example of quality over quantity! Chime in! How do you find time to have one on one time with your multiples?