*Are you happy at the moment?
Unreservedly, yes. I am feeling really joyful and peaceful at the moment. I don’t think I could have answered that question honestly until the last few years. It took me a long time to learn to live with myself, I mean truly accept myself, and work out what I wanted in life. Now I have what I want – I do something which I love, and which helps others, for a living. And in my inner life, I am just more peaceful. I think Reiki and meditation have helped with that, without a doubt.
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
‘You are an alchemist. Know it well and use it wisely.’
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
This year has really been about mastery for me. I became a Reiki Master in September and a Master Practitioner of NLP in November. Oh and a Reiki Drum Technique Master Practitioner too. Pretty intensive. To really claim mastery of these healing techniques, I had to integrate them into my own life. I had to dance to my own tune. The benefits I’ve had have been amazing and the many disciplines have really opened up a new worldview to me. I can see the human body, the human race, living beings and the planet as interconnected, like ecosystemic Russian dolls which are all connected to each other. And that has changed my attitude a lot. Also, I’m reclaiming my ability to tell stories. I wrote great stories when I was younger and neglected my abilities for a long time. So now I’m really excited to be getting creative again.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
It’s time for me to settle down. I’m 32 and in one way or another have never stopped moving. So really I’m ready to put down some roots. For me that means having an allotment, growing some veg, owning a bicycle, being part of a good community – settling somewhere for long enough to live more sustainably, I suppose. It may not sound like the grandest of plans, but it is the right thing for me, now.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Ha! Big question! I know what has worked for me. Practicing Reiki has changed my world. Reiki is the channeling of Ki energy for the purpose of healing. I practice energy exercises and self-healing on a daily basis. I’ve also been introduced to the concept of mindfulness and meditation, which are also a big part of my life. And it is since adopting these practices that I’ve truly been able to allow myself to be happy. You know, we spend so much of our time in our heads, following trains of thought about past events which can’t be changed or future events which may never happen. And when we focus on those thoughts, we get the emotional and physiological reactions which are associated with them. But that’s not so beneficial. So by allowing myself to be more in the moment, to experience what’s actually happening, I’ve found that I’m much happier – and actually healthier too!
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Daily meditations, self- healing, and yoga. I spend an hour or two every day on these things. I’ve learned that it’s both acceptable and essential for me to practice self-care. It helps me to function at a much higher level in my other responsibilities. So I make sure I schedule in the time to do it. I even meditate on planes and buses when there’s no other time!
*What’s your biggest regret?
Ah, well, despite having put myself through quite a rough time, I’m not sure whether I have any. I suppose it was hard that I had to hit rock bottom before I could start to turn my life around. And I tried very hard to get to rock bottom, believe me! I must’ve wanted that turnaround. I left home young, got involved in heroin and lived on the streets for years, was so vulnerable. Then I was briefly married to a man who was violent. And I drank a lot. But it took until I had to go on antiviral chemotherapy for hepatitis C before I really started to change what I was doing, thinking, being. That treatment was such a shock to the system, it was as if a reset button had been pressed. So I suppose, if anything, I would regret not having let myself bounce back up a little bit sooner. And of course the impact of these things, and the words and behaviours that went with them, on my loved ones was unfair to put it mildly. I do genuinely regret that. And I’m still grateful for all those experiences, or at least for the part they played in leading me to where I am now.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid?
That she is strong and capable, and can do anything she puts her mind to. It’s a lesson my mum taught me. When I was at university and went in to make arrangements for maternity leave, the director of my department asked if I thought I would still be able to complete my studies. It hadn’t even occurred to me that I wouldn’t. I’d seen my mum do all that – working, studying, raising two children, a lot of the time on her own. So I knew it was possible. That’s what I want to be showing my daughter. There are no limitations.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I’m not desperate to change anything. For a long time I didn’t like myself, and now I can allow myself to do that. So yes, there are things I’m working on, but they’re not big deals.
*Aside from motherhood what are you most proud of in your life?
I’m very proud of my daughter. But apart from that, I suppose I’m proud of not only having picked myself up, repeatedly, but of being able to facilitate and support other people who are making big changes in their life or dealing with challenging issues. I’m astounded by the outcomes. It’s such a buzz.
*When were you happiest?
Now. I am always happiest now. I have so much to be grateful for. Right now I have a roof over my head, food to eat, excellent health. Loving friends and family. A career doing something of value. Access to continual learning opportunities. The opportunity to express myself. The list goes on. How could I not be happy now?
*What ten words best describe you?
Mother, Healer, Daughter, Teacher, Warrior, Writer, Student, Witchy, Genuine, Growing.
Keziah Gibbons is an integrated coach/healer, and mother to Lili, 4. Keziah flits between Ankara, Turkey, and the UK’s East Midlands. Her mission is to empower people to step into their lives and claim their own resources, whether they be battling illness, recovering from trauma, or simply striving to achieve excellence.
Keziah’s first book, Living the Reiki Precepts, is due for publication in January 2015 and she is currently working on a model for teaching holistic pain management. More about Keziah’s healing, courses and workshops can be found at www.vibrantselfhealing.com, on Facebook and Twitter as well.