Tales From A Twin Mom: Dark Side Of Being A Twin Mom

Tales From A Twin Mom:
The Dark Side of Being a Twin Mom

Every mom has a dark side..moms of twins just have that side a slight bit darker.

Listen, I get it. It’s not always warm and fuzzy in your home. Sometimes there are days when you look at the clock and just count the minutes until your little ones are in bed. It’s normal and you should know that. I tell my husband all the time that Mary Poppins was probably a wine connoisseur. I mean come on! How much singing and laughter can one person take?! What I am going to say to you might not be peachy but it’s the truth. My point? We aren’t meant to be perfect and mothers of multiples DO have it harder than mothers of singletons. I am here to reassure you that there’s nothing wrong with the thoughts that go through your head. Well, at least nothing too wrong. Here are four of the most common darkest secrets of mothers of multiples. Be warned- judging is not allowed. We walk around in packs (insert evil laugh here).

1.YOU GRAVITATE
TOWARD ONE BABY

Maybe it’s because that one baby was needier or weaker than the other. Maybe your other baby was independent and self soothed magically before you could get to him. Regardless of the reason- yes, it is normal and yes, it will pass. Don’t stay up at night wondering if something is wrong with you because there’s not. As mothers we follow supply and demand and when one twin is being held more than the other you’re bound to get a different connection. That in no way, shape or form means that you love one more than the other.

They will alternate their demand levels. One day soon enough you will feel guilty about gravitating towards your other twin. See? The guilt will even out. It will still be guilt, but it will even out.

2. YOU HATE HEARING MOMS
OF ONE COMPLAIN

You can sit there and give that singleton mom all the smiles you want but I know what you’re thinking. I know you would love to have her see what you go through in the middle of the night when both babies are hungry. One night. That’s all she would need. Like that one night when you fed the first one and he was colicky so you had to feed his twin as he screamed bloody murder because you just didn’t have enough hands. Yet, here is your friend telling you it’s been too stressful since the night nanny left. Try to keep smiling before that nervous twitch kicks in. This is not only normal- this makes you human.

3. YOU TRY TO GET THEM
SICK AT THE SAME TIME

Been there, done that, and I know if you haven’t you’ve certainly thought about it. When one twin gets pink eye or a cold you put them together just so the dreaded disease doesn’t last weeks in your home. Banging it out by having them both get it is just easier. Does this make you the worst mother in the world?

They share everything anyway- they’re bound to get it. Feel awful? Don’t. I listen to thousands of parents of multiples speak every day and I can tell you- you are not alone. The way I see it, you’re just speeding up the process.

4. REVENGE ON YOUR
PARTNER IS BLISSFUL!

WARNING: MOTHER IN LAWS SHOULD NOT READ ANY FURTHER.

One afternoon you walked out the door to the grocery store as your partner walked in from work. You’re in the store reading labels you’ve never read before when suddenly the phone rings. It’s him. He’s frantic because one of the twins is crying and he has no idea how to fix it. You know damn well that all he needs to do is put on the Wiggles CD and give them a paci and they will be fine. Instead? You suggest he hold them both and try to soothe them. As you hang up the phone you can’t help but feel a tad guilty yet there you are smirking because this is it. This is his time to take in what you do- all day, every day. You’ll walk a little faster through the grocery store but this will not stop you from smelling every new body wash on the shelf. It’s an amazing feeling to feel needed and you are more than entitled to it.

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Alright moms- you tell me, can you relate to some of these?