*Are you happy at the moment?
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
Be strong, find a therapist to confide in and help you with your pain or find an adult who you trust and talk to them.
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
I am strong enough to share my life’s story – all of it and release from the guilt and shame I have felt for 38 years.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
To find a way to share my story with other women to help them with their pain.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Leaving the past in the past as you can’t change the past, but I can take the lessons learned from the past to make a better future for myself and my family.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Praying and then releasing.
*What’s your biggest regret?
My biggest regret is that I didn’t confide in an adult when I was in so much turmoil.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
To effectively communicate with others.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
My weight—part of myself punishment over the years has been letting my weight go. I am now focusing on my weight and health.
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
That I have suffered my past tragedies and still feel very blessed.
*When were you happiest?
I was happiest when I was 15-16 years old.
*What ten words best describe you?
Survivor, compassionate, loving, humble, trustworthy, honest, inspiring, happy, out-going, content
Cathy is a native Houstonian. She graduated from Texas A&M University in 1980 with a Bachelor of Administration in Finance. In 1990, she graduated with honors, receiving a Masters Degree in Finance from Golden Gate University in Sacramento, CA. While working for the State of California, she has proudly received three different appointments from two sitting Governors and has accumulated twenty-one years of Executive Management experience with the State. She has 30 years of overall management experience gained in the public, for-profit and non-profit sectors. She has traveled the ten western States providing technical assistance as well as providing financial/accounting presentations for rural communities.
She has spent the last four years focused on writing her memoir, “Living Through The Pain – The Lonely Me,” fulfilling a dream she has had. In 1976, at the tender age of sixteen, she lost her father, mother, oldest brother, and sister-in-law in a private plane crash. In 1989 she lost her surviving brother to AIDS. As a single mother, she struggled to take care of her son while still being haunted by the previous tragedies of losing her immediate family members. Her suffering has provided her with the unique awareness of what enormous pain an individual can live through and still be able to propel their life forward in a productive manner. She now considers her in-depth understanding of surviving tragedies and using her pain to enrich her life as a calling from God to serve others and assist them in finding the courage to move forward. She is currently involved in developing her second career as an accomplished writer and motivational speaker.