How Can I Teach My Child To Move On
After The Loss Of Our Dog?
Love the site and all your great pieces – but I have to say Ask Rene is my favorite part of Good Enough Mother!
A few weeks ago we lost our beloved beagle, Charlie, after he was knocked down by a speeding car. Charlie was only 6 years old and it’s really knocked us around as he was a much-loved member of the family.
My 8-year-old daughter Becky has been especially upset by Charlie’s death and has been having nightmares and keeps bursting into tears. I know she’s having a hard time accepting this sudden death and I don’t really know what to do.
My husband Rick thinks we should get another dog but I think it’s too soon. But maybe it would help Becky cope?
I’m just not sure what to say to make things better. I’d love to know what you think Rene – as well as all the other Good Enough Mothers out there…
Marissa, New England
Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. Pets are a big part of our family and I think it’s impossible to describe the unconditional love and support they provide. You don’t mention in your letter if you have other children, which leads me to believe you may not. If that is the case, Charlie was more than a pet to Becky; he was a brother of sorts, making the loss even more acute. Though I am not a psychologist, here’s what I am thinking.