Help! My Kid Doesn’t Want To Go To College!
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Here’s my problem. My daughter Kara is about to turn 16 so we’re starting to think about her college education. We’ve saved a reasonable amount in her university fund and her grades would be good enough for her to have a strong choice of colleges to choose between.
Unfortunately Kara is adamant that she’s not going to college. She says she’s bored of school and doesn’t want to study anymore. She wants to have some fun after she graduates and go traveling.
Her father and I wouldn’t mind so much if she had a definite career plan in mind – but Kara basically just wants to party and we’re worried she’s throwing her future away.
How can we convince her daughter that she’s on the wrong track and making decisions that could seriously jeopardize her future?
Okay, let’s start by backing away from the ledge. In your head you are imagining at best your daughter working for minimum wage in a sweatshop or at worst, living on the street. Neither one of those is likely to happen but if you keep pushing her, trying to bend her will to yours, the outcome will most assuredly not be what you want. Let’s look at the facts.
2. Kara's Post High School Plans
What’s wrong with taking some time off to travel? Though I have no regrets in my life, I do wish I had taken time to travel more as a young adult. I mean the kind of throw-everything-in–a-backpack-and-go sort of travel as opposed to the detailed trips I take now with my family. I truly believe some of life’s most important lessons can take place outside of the classroom setting. What’s the rush? Why does she have to go straight from high school to college? What would be the harm in letting her travel and mature at her own pace and then enroll in college when she’s ready, if she ever decides to do that?