How Can I Get My Kid To Focus On Her Grades?
I’m going to try and keep it short, with that being said here goes….
Our daughter is in the 4th grade; She’s a good student but seems to lack the motivation she needs to continue her success from 3rd grade of being an A/B student. The school year started and it was fine but as the days went on we started to notice that she was being forgetful and just plain lazy. She would leave her assignments at school and when asked what happened…she had the DEER IN THE HEAD LIGHTS look (frustrating after some time).
I found out that she is being really social in class and the teacher had to move her to a new seat. She had some tests come up and she didn’t pass a few of them because she didn’t bring her notes and study guide home. This happened a few times and finally after all the threats of taking her stuff, putting her on punishment, taking her time, talks after talks, no visiting friends, and no recreational activities until grades come up…….SHE STILL continues to do what we call “blow us off”!
Recently she had a math test, she brought the study materials home, I helped her study and then gave her time to study on her own….she failed the test-MISERABLY. Now she doesn’t get to go to her friend’s b-day party coming up soon.
I could go on and on but I will stop there. We have tried everything we know to try. Rene’, what do we need to do to motivate her to want to succeed? We’ve told her how important it is, I even do my homework (working on Bachelor‘s Degree) while she’s doing hers. I even show her my grades as I have been on the Dean’s list a few times. What do I do? What do we do?
Confused and Frustrated Mom
Dear confused and frustrated:
Thanks for writing. As the mother of two, one who is a self-motivator and the other who only moves with fire under his fanny, I totally understand. There are a couple of things that immediately come to mind; the first is making sure you are teaching good study habits. The second would be to rule out any sort of learning disability.