My Ex Let My Son Get Pierced.. And I’m PISSED!
Rene, you have teenagers. I know you can help me with this. My son wants to do things that I object to like pierce his ear and get a tattoo. I’m divorced from his dad, who isn’t too strict about these things. My ex took our son to have his ear pierced and I was livid because they both knew my feelings about this. I can’t believe they went behind my back. I made my son take the earring out and now he won’t talk to me. He literally hasn’t said a word to me in almost two weeks. The tension around here is high and I want to end this.
Peacemaker in Pittsburg
YIKES! GEM Contributor Wilma Jones (who writes Better Not Bitter) is really keen on working hard to make the co-parenting relationship the best it can be so that all parties benefit but especially the children. That doesn’t sound like that was the case here. So here are a couple of things going through my head as I read your question and what I would do if I were you.
1. Talk. Talk. TALK!
And the first conversation needs to be with the ex. What.the.HELL? He knew how you felt about piercings.. this was incredibly disrespectful! Though divorce is not my area of expertise, I can't help but think this flies in the face of whatever agreement you may have, especially if you are the custodial parent and the child is a minor. You can't let this one slide. So call him up and put the hammer down!