Nubia DuVall Wilson
*Are you happy at the moment?
Very happy. I have a job I love, my family, and my health.
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
Don’t let your ex-boyfriend drive your car — especially not your senior year. You’ll save $1,600 in damages and avoid being grounded for two weeks!
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
The baby stage of parenthood is so precious and, before you know it, the child is already walking. Don’t miss those moments because you’re too busy working in a stressful job.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I want to be less critical of myself as I continue to navigate my new life as a working mom who wants to do it all (especially since am learning how to take care of two less than two years apart!).
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Staying positive and looking at the big picture is important. I have a natural tendency to be cynical and negative, so I have to remind myself that life will never throw something at me that I can’t handle or learn from. I often write down things I am thankful for — it really makes a difference!
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Each year my husband and I write down our individual and family’s short-term and long-term goals to help us vision what success means to us on various levels. We have periodic check-ins and are often surprised to see how much we accomplished from the list. It’s a very powerful exercise and it reminds us that writing down your goals helps you focus on how to make them happen.
*What’s your biggest regret?
When I lived in Taipei, Taiwan after college, I never traveled to Mainland China. I ventured all over Taiwan and visited Thailand, but I was very focused on saving money at the time because I had very large school loans from attending Barnard College. Looking back, I could have done it and still returned home with savings — I would have had a little less of course, but the experience would have trumped the loss.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
My daughter is only 15 months, so lately her lessons have included learning how to walk up and down stairs, not touching the fireplace, and learning how to eat with a fork!
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I create clutter — it takes effort for me to be tidy and organized. When we lived in our New York City apartment, my husband joked that he knew I beat him home from work because there was a trail of shoes, accessories, and general “Nubia’s stuff” everywhere leading to our bedroom!
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
A year ago I self-published my first book, Encounters with Strangers, a compilation of comical real-life situations I had with strangers in NYC, Taiwan, and other big cities around the world.
*When were you happiest?
Too many times to count! Most recently, when I quit my hectic agency job in NYC to become an in-house marketing director in NJ. My new job allows me to work from home. I knew my work/life balance would improve—and it has!
*What ten words best describe you?
Passionate, Outgoing, Quirky, Spontaneous, Determined, Writer, Traveler, Creative, Dreamer, Knowledge-Seeker
A published author, Nubia DuVall Wilson is a mother of two and wife of five years. She launched her writing career in New York City at Real Simple magazine. Later she transitioned into luxury PR and marketing, supporting a spectrum of clients from Bacardi Rum to Mustique Island. Currently she is a marketing director for a dental group. Inspired to write about the memorable characters she encountered in the city and while traveling, Nubia launched the blog EncounterswithStrangers.com in 2007, which she continues to pen today. Follow on her Twitter @NubiaWilson.