Better, Not Bitter:
3 Tried-And-True Ways To
Get Your Teen To Talk
Not too long ago, my son and I had a problem communicating. It seemed every conversation turned into a debate. Or even worse, an argument. It was really frustrating for me and I think it was pretty irritating to him as well.
I have two sons and like many parents, I connect with one more easily than the other. And my mini-me child is college age, so although we still have a mom-son relationship, he is an adult and I treat him as such. My son whose temperament is different from mine is at home with me full time. He is the one I needed to figure out how to better connect with.
We only have a few years left together before he heads off to college and I don’t want him hating life here with mom in his last years of high school. I know things won’t be smooth sailing all the time, but it would be nice to be able to talk and share information about our day since we share these four walls known as our home.
I did some reading and research about the issue to see what I was doing wrong and how I could try to make things better. I knew all the problems weren’t on my side, but I knew the only problems I could fix about the issue were mine, so I started there.
I started by Googling, “talk to your teenager” and I found some pretty good suggestions. Like this website that points out the importance of just talking with your teen instead of always trying to get a point across. Or this one that advised to make sure your teens understand their opinions are valued. And one suggestion that made a lot of sense was just the advice to talk about whatever my teen wants to talk about. Now that we are well into the school year I’ve found it interesting to try one of these three prompts to start a reasonable conversation in the evening after school and work.