Need dietAsk Rene:
How Do I Get Them To Stop
Talking About My WEIGHT?

 

Hi Rene: 

Ever since I was little, I have been overweight. My family and relatives have always judged me and my sister since we are both overweight. When my mother invites her friends over, they would talk and say stuff like, “Julia (me) is so big”; they would act like they were referring to my height (5’6″) but I know they are talking about my weight. I’m 13-years-old and everyone says I have a body like a grown-up and such things. 

I don’t know whether to take offense or to just brush it off. Do you ave any tips? 

Thanks if you do.

Signed: Just Julia In Jacksonville

 

Dear Julia:

Oh honey.. I’m not sure this will mean anything to you since I am a total stranger, but I need to tell you that you are beautiful. No matter your weight, skin color, hair texture.. whatever! How can I say that, not knowing you? Because you are; we all are. You are your own person, unique in your own way and that in and of itself is absolutely stunning. I need you to believe that, okay? Alright, now that we have established that, in terms of handling your family,  here’s what I would do if I were you.

2. Talk To You Mom

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You're going to have to have a chat with mom and I don't mean one of those, "in -passing" type talks either. Bring her into your room, sit her on your bed and tell her how her words make you feel. Tell her you feel self-conscious about your body (which happens to many at this age) and you're not sure what "normal" is (there is no such thing, by the way). But the biggest point you need to get across is that you need her on your team, instead of making you feel off-balance with her remarks. And you need her to stick up for you with her friends. Once she knows how those comments make you feel, hopefully she shuts down the next person to say something.