Broken Heart


Ask Rene:
Has My Daughter Lost It?


Hi, Rene:

What do you do when your children break your heart?

My daughter, Rebecca, recently left her husband of eight years and took her three children to live with her and her new boyfriend. My son-in-law is devastated and so am I. This seems so out-of-character for Rebecca and, frankly, I’m worried about her mental health. She wants me to support her life choices or butt out, but I can’t seem to do either.

Shocked Mom in Minneapolis



Hi Shocked:

I’m truly sorry to hear about what’s going on with your daughter. But you’re probably not going to be thrilled with what I say here. However, I hope it provides food for thought. Here’s what I would do if I were you . . .


1. Talk To Rebecca

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I’m not saying this is the case, but you may not have the entire story; what you’ve said here seems to be just the surface. Have you asked Rebecca what’s going on or what played into her decision? If not, you should. You must also understand that she may not want to share it with you. Check your own emotions and talk to Rebecca without judgment.