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Ask Rene: Has My Daughter Lost It?

Broken Heart

 

Ask Rene:
Has My Daughter Lost It?

 

Hi, Rene:

What do you do when your children break your heart?

My daughter, Rebecca, recently left her husband of eight years and took her three children to live with her and her new boyfriend. My son-in-law is devastated and so am I. This seems so out-of-character for Rebecca and, frankly, I’m worried about her mental health. She wants me to support her life choices or butt out, but I can’t seem to do either.

Shocked Mom in Minneapolis

 

 

Hi Shocked:

I’m truly sorry to hear about what’s going on with your daughter. But you’re probably not going to be thrilled with what I say here. However, I hope it provides food for thought. Here’s what I would do if I were you . . .

 

1. Talk To Rebecca

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I’m not saying this is the case, but you may not have the entire story; what you’ve said here seems to be just the surface. Have you asked Rebecca what’s going on or what played into her decision? If not, you should. You must also understand that she may not want to share it with you. Check your own emotions and talk to Rebecca without judgment.

1 Comment

  1. S.

    November 5, 2014 at 8:41 am

    I agree with the choices you listed Rene.

    For the woman with the question, I know as moms we can be hurt and offended when our children make decisions for their own lives that are totally opposite of what we would do. But if they are adults, they are allowed to do so.

    Children keep secrets from parents. Neither of my parents knows everything that happens in my life. Some things are none of their business, either because it could cause them to worry or because it’s just too personal.

    Either way, as an adult, I reserve the right to make choices for my own life that neither of my parents might agree with.

    And whether I like it or not, my daughter will have the same right when she’s 18.

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