*Are you happy at the moment?
The adjective “happy,” would be an understatement for where I currently am in life. I feel joyous, grounded, spirited and knowledgeable (just to start). My state of being comes from the fact that I am the healthiest that I have ever been, my marriage is strong, I am Mommy to a 5 month and two year old, my family is in the process of a PCS to Hawaii, and best of all, I am beginning to really know myself. So yes, I feel like I am the epitome of happiness.
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16 year old self now – what would it be?
“Girl, please.” Because as I age and continue to grow I have learned it really is not that serious. Not every situation is life altering, spirit breaking or dramatic. It is okay to simply relax and let it “be.”
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
To take chances. I recently left a successful career to become a Stay at Home Mom. I have been working full time since college and have so much debt from undergrad and graduate school that seeing the words “Student Loan,” generally causes hyperventilation and hives. Despite this, I took a chance and made one of the decisions I could have for myself and my family.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I would really like to be successful at the path I have recently chosen for myself. Be a good mom and wife, be healthy, enjoy life, be resourceful as well as a resource for others and blog about it all along the way.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
For me, genuine happiness came when I learned to be patient and faithful. My mom would continue to tell me, “Just let it be. Stop thinking about it, stop trying to make decisions that aren’t ready to be made and just be.” When I finally took her advice I realized so many things were not meant to be controlled. I just let things be and have faith that all will be the way that it should.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
I recently started running and it has done so much for me. It allows me time to think, process information, pray or just be. Running allows me to be in the moment, I enjoy the process of breathing, of enjoying nature and the quiet. There has never been a day where I have regretted going out for a run, or come back home feeling not feeling better.
*What’s your biggest regret?
I regret wasting so much time not being happy with myself for myself. I spent a lot of wasted energy as a teenager and young adult doing for others and their happiness, as opposed to doing for myself.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
My oldest is 2, so right now she is learning through repetition. Every night we tell her that she is loved. We list everyone that loves her, from grandparents, to aunts and uncles to cousins and friends. We tell her that she is smart, strong and beautiful. We feel like she should always hear this from her parents. We should be the first people to tell her how loved and amazing she is. And that she should know that so many people that surround her know this and feel the same way. We never want our children to look for validation anywhere else. We really want them to know this about themselves, and to feel good about knowing and expressing that they are loved and that they are smart, strong and beautiful inside and out.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I have the potential of being over the top when it comes to organization and cleanliness. It can at times be an obsession. I like items to be organized and color coded, I don’t like dishes to be left in the sink and I vacuum at least once a day. I don’t want to be too excessive with this to the point where I am so concerned with being organized that I miss out on the fun.
*Aside from motherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
I am proud of my drive. Because of it I earned my MBA, established a successful career and now have taken a chance on blogging. I never feel like I am finished and at 31 I know that there is so much more that I am capable of. I truly do not want to settle or ever be complacent.
*When were you happiest?
Turning 30 was an eye-opener for me. I had just become a mom and was learning so much about myself. I literally woke up on the morning of my 30th healthier than I had been in my 20’s, I loved being a mom and I felt like I was on the way to really knowing myself in ways that I had not before. I honestly felt like good things were going to happen in my life and I knew that day was just the beginning.
*What ten words best describe you?
I am…organized, dependable, loving, faithful, bubbly, funny, creative, patient, eclectic and driven.
My name is Lindsay, I am 31, currently live in Fort Polk, Louisiana and blog on Businesstocasual.com. I grew up in Northern Virginia and graduated college with an undergrad degree in Government and International Politics and a minor in Legal Studies. I had dreams of attending law school and working on Capitol Hill. Despite my extremely organized life plan, real life had other plans. Real life said “law school isn’t for you,” and sent me on a path which resulted in me marrying the last person I ever thought I would and establishing a career in Real Estate Development and Property Management (while living and moving as a Army Spouse). Over the last few years I have made some major, yet wonderful changes to my life. I was able to acquire my MBA and become a mother to two amazing kiddos. And while I happily label myself as a Mommy, Army Wife, Blogger, Pescatarian, Runner and closet comedian my husband may say I am obsessively organized, addicted to lip gloss and eye-rolling and a closet nerd with an unhealthy obsession to FanFiction and Star Trek. Either way, I’ll take it.