Brenda Della Casa
*Are you happy at the moment?
I used to jump from happiness and unhappiness based on the moment, but as I have grown older, I have found that I am able to “return to happiness” in any moment by simply thinking about the life I have lived, the lessons I have learned and the ways in which the unhappiness of the past led to the happiness of today. So, am I happy? Yes.
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
The pain, fear and loneliness you feel right now is exactly what will give you the life you ache for but don’t really believe you deserve and fear you will never achieve.
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
That your dreams and worth do not shrink and expand in relation to how others react to them and also that negative reactions to both are often reflective of unconsciousness, and not malice.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
The greatest professional and personal success possible in that amount of time.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
I use the past as a reference book and am grateful for my blessings. I literally say what I am thankful for aloud.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
I have very strong and supportive friends and colleagues in my life and have learned to balance time with them and time alone very well. I can get lost in my own head and those I trust pull me back a bit and I have learned my role in my own life in that I trust my own veto power.
*What’s your biggest regret?
That I did not have more time with my beloved grandfather.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
I have not yet been blessed to have children, but the most important lesson I was taught by my grandfather (who raised me) was the value of time.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I would like very much to be a better housekeeper. I am terribly impatient and always on-the-go.
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
My ability to come from where I do and maintain the career and relationships I have.
*When were you happiest?
As a child, with my grandfather. As an adult, when I got my job at Preston Bailey and with someone I loved very much.
*What ten words best describe you?
Loyal, Loving, Passionate, Romantic, Curious, Disciplined, Impatient, Dramatic, Resilient, Resourceful
Brenda Della Casa is the founder of BDC Life In Style, the internationally-published author of Cinderella Was a Liar (McGraw-Hill), The Editor-In-Chief for Preston Bailey Designs and the Owner of the US side of the #1 Men’s Wedding Website, Staggered Magazine (Currently being Redesigned). She is also a Fearless Living blogger for The Huffington Post.