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10 From GEM:
10 Subtle Signs That You Might Be A Helicopter Parent

If you’re familiar with Good Enough Mother, then you know that around here perfect parenting is overrated, not to mention utterly impossible. Of course, we all do more than we can physically and emotionally for our children and run ourselves ragged in the process. Most of us do at least a little helicopter parenting. You might not be the parent who emails your children’s teacher every day or the parent who cuts your 10-year-old’s pancakes, but there are other ways you might be flying over your kids and keeping them from growing. Read on for 10 subtle signs that you might be a helicopter parent.

10. You Save Your Kids Instead of Teaching Them Skills

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It’s not unusual for kids to leave their homework at home and give you a call asking you to bring it to school. There’s nothing wrong with doing it once in a while, especially when the stakes are high. But when your son forgets his homework fairly often, you can either save him every time or you can equip him with the skills he’s missing. Show him how to make a homework calendar or checklist to be left in an area where he will see it or encourage him to pack his book bag every night.

Ultimately, it’s going to be self-awareness and introspection that help parents rein in their behavior. Regularly question your own parenting choices, not to berate yourself but to examine whether you are preparing your children for adulthood or if you are unknowingly crippling that preparation.

Are there any ways you might be helicopter parenting? What do you do when you notice yourself parenting that way? Share your thoughts below.