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Top Talker:
Robin Lays It On Thick

You may recall that singer Robin Thicke and his wife, actress Paula Patton, separated last February. We can only speculate about the reasons for their decision to split, but some feel that Thicke’s provocative performance with Miley Cyrus at last year’s MTV Video Music Awards and later being photographed with his hand on a fan’s rear end marked the beginning of the end.

It’s no secret that Thicke wants his wife back. He is sorry and determined to reunite with Patton. His latest album, out today, is aptly named Paula.

Thicke performed at Sunday night’s BET Awards looking quite lovelorn. While sitting at the piano, he said: “I’d like to dedicate this song to my wife and say, ‘I miss you and I’m sorry.’ It’s called ‘Forever Love.’”

Then he started crying. The song is included on his new album and includes lyrics such as, “If you ever need a friend, I will be the one” and “Every day I will believe that you and I are meant to be.”

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Recording artists have been singing about real love, lost love, unrequited love, etc., since time immemorial. We don’t usually know who artists are singing about, and that’s a good thing. That anonymity allows the person to handle the breakup in her own way.

But there’s something so smarmy about what Thicke is doing. I listened to a few songs on Paula and I felt uncomfortable. This is a public spectacle that puts Patton in a spotlight that she might not want to be in. (Sidenote: I will weep for humanity if it ever comes out that she planned to get back together with Thicke and that they decided to go through this sideshow to promote album sales.)

New York Magazine published this piece online that almost perfectly sums up my feelings. It says, in part:

Like the very public marriage proposal, the Very Public Get-Her-Back campaign appears to be the height of romance — he’s laying it all on the line for her! — but is in fact pure manipulation. It goads Patton into a conversation in which she must either acquiesce to his demand or disappoint the public, and makes her an involuntary part of his career for the foreseeable future. What would be an irritating gesture in a civilian relationship should practically be illegal among celebrities.

I have no idea whether Patton wants to reconcile with her husband or not. If she decides to rejoin with her husband, good for her. If she wants to take her life in a different direction and divorce Thicke, I still say good for her. Either way, it’s not essential that the public is in on this private affair.

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What do you think? Is Robin Thicke doing too much? Would you be flattered or annoyed if someone tried to win you back in this way? Share your thoughts below.