Ask The Good Enough Guy:
My Husband Is Procrastinating With
Our Moving Plans. Now What?
Hi Good Enough Guy:
My husband and I want to move back to our home state of Georgia from Chicago. We have family there and we want our children to be around them. I’m a teacher, so it wouldn’t be hard for me to find a job. However, my husband’s job is very specific and there wouldn’t be opportunities in his field. He would have to do a major career shift, maybe even go back to school. He’s been at his job for 20 years and he enjoys it, so I understand it’s hard to think about doing something else. We’ve been talking about moving for three years. By now he could have picked up a new skill! I feel like his inaction is keeping us where we don’t want to be. How can I encourage him to take a step forward?
Let’s see… Hmmmm.
You know what keeps jumping out at me from you letter? How often you speak as “we.”
“My husband and I”… “we have family there”… “we want our children”… “we’ve been talking”… “his inaction is keeping us where we don’t want to be.” As my dad used to say; “Unless you have a mouse in your pocket, you are not a ‘we.’” Remember: you asked me, so here’s what I think:
3. You Probably Moved Away From Home For A Reason
I don’t know your family or your home town, but one thing it has in common with my home town is WE BOTH MOVED FAR AWAY. Maybe it was for job opportunities. Maybe it was for the adventure. Maybe it was because if you had to look at one more damn cornfield, you were going to… oh wait… that was just me. Either way, when I go back to visit there, it takes me about 24 hours to remember EXACTLY why I left. I’m betting your husband has a similar feeling. He may not be saying it out loud, but if he’s dragging his feet on moving, it’s not by accident. So…