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10 From GEM: 10 Ways To Stop A Tantrum In Its Tracks

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10 From GEM:
10 Ways To Stop A Tantrum In Its Tracks

If you’re a parent of little ones, you are sure to experience little tantrums like whining and crying and bigger tantrums such as kicking and screaming. You don’t always know when it’s going to happen or what’s going to trigger it. You do know that dreadful feeling you get when it happens. Well, moms and dads, you have more power than you think to prevent and minimize these outbursts. Keep reading for 10 ways to stop a tantrum in its tracks.

 

1. Teach Your Child To Handle His Emotions

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Yes, this is easier said than done. No, this will not happen overnight. But parents are the best examples toddlers have to learn how to control themselves. We have to have compassion for the fact that they are frequently unable to control their behavior and find ways to teach them that while their feelings are valid, there is an appropriate way to express them.

1 Comment

  1. Clarissa

    July 27, 2014 at 8:18 am

    Good stuff!! I lived for advice like this and it helped my kids to never have a ripping tantrum. Definitely number 8 & 10 were my biggest go-to’s but the biggest one of all was also nip it in the bud!

    When they are 1 they are cute, but if it isn’t diverted then, it’s not so cute above age 3 anymore. At the very first sign of a tantrum (& young!) I acknowledged their feelings and said I know you are trying to tell me something, so just tell me. You explain, and then I will explain.

    I did immediate reasoning, because for some crazy reason I remember HAVING tantrums and mine came from feeling unheard and misunderstood. If they were inconsolable, I just held them and said I really know you are mad, but you can NOT EVER behave like this. It won’t work. Not. Ever. I think it is incredibly important that children learn right off the bat they CAN’T have everything hey want. By giving a child everything and never having the heart to say no because they are so adorably cute it is setting them up for a landslide of tantrums and entitlement issues.

    Another thing I said to the kids is when I say, “no.” You say, “ok”. They do. They understand that it will sometimes be yes, but when it’s no, it’s no. I got great advice too about the over-wanting. Often children have tantrums when they want something- a toy or what have you. I heard once to say to them, the. You will need to give up one of yours at home. Which one will it be? It works two fold, diverting attention from here and now to home and their belongings, and also a sense of possession and ownership and not wanting to give anything up. Sometimes we do do that also. I talk to them about children who may not even have a house, and would love to have some toys. We pick out ones they no longer care as much for and see that as a huge gift. I am so, SO grateful for all the amazing advice I was given and can say it has worked! These years have been great. BUT I am about to walk I to the fire of teenage land in a few years. We shall see if this all backfires! Haha

    As for now, I am amazed at the good behavior of my kids. They have never had a tantrum like I used to. I am either really blessed (I am), or all the advice I received and implemented and things I remember being frustrated about have worked really well!

    Thanks Rene for this amazing site and so many years of great advice!!!

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