What Matters Most:
Don’t Pretend – Just Be YOU
It happens all the time. Someone asks you “How are you doing?” and you answer back “Great!” when you know that you’re a mess inside and out. We’re all very good at “putting on pretense”….you know pretending we have it all together by attempting to make something that is not the case appear true.
A perfect example…that may or may not happen at my house…would be when a friend drops by unexpectedly and as you see their car drive up in front of your house the PANIC sets in…You start yelling out to the kids “Quick! CLEAN UP THE HOUSE!” while you’re grabbing the clean laundry that has been strewn across the sofa, tossing it all back in the drier. Running through the kitchen you toss a few big dirty pans back in the oven and not forgetting to check on the bathroom to make sure the toilet seat is “pee free” and that there are not any kids dirty underwear on the floor. mmhmm Mom’s of many boys know what I’m talkin’ about here!
Then frantically you make your way to the front door, grabbing legos and Polly Pocket pieces, shoving them in your pocket and thankfully pulling out a hair scrunchy to pull your oily hair back in a pony tail just in time to greet your friend at the door with a half smile and a sigh”Hello! So good to see you!” which you genuinely are…just not under these circumstances where you are forced to be real.
Honestly…what is it that drives us to take such great strides to make all things appear “Great!” rather than just be real? Why do we feel like we must pretend that our home looks like we are able to easily do the work of 4 women cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids and with many of us working as well? Why do we think we need to make our home look like it belongs on “The Street of Dreams” and that we should be looking rested and relaxed and ready for anyone to drop in and say hello.
Who really lives a life of perfection like that?! Clearly nobody, but we must think it is so on some level or why else would try to make our homes and our lives appear to be what they are not.
All too often we are afraid to be who we really are and THAT keeps us from loving who we are, who our family is and sadly it keeps us in a perpetual act of pretending…and THAT is not living.
Jim Morrison hits the nail on the head “That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what she really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending – performing. You get to love your pretense. It’s true, we’re locked in an image, an act – and the sad thing is….they forget all about who they really are.”
When we stop pretending to have it all together and be who we truly are with our faults, wrinkles, crazy loud laugh, messy house, not so flat tummy, crazy kids and all, then we will find the peace to rise above all the pretense and embrace ourselves and the life we are living. Life is just too short to NOT Go Love Your Life & Live The Life You Love!
Be who you are even if who you are is NOT at all who you thought you’d be.
Are you ready to be real? What is one thing that you are willing to embrace and just be real about? I’d love to know!