Should I Marry This Man
I’m engaged to be married in September. This would be a second marriage for me; my first marriage was a disaster and the only good thing I can say about it is that we didn’t have children. My fiancé is a very good man and I love him, but I have this feeling that maybe I shouldn’t marry him. I’m not sure why. I don’t know if I feel gun-shy because of my first marriage or if I really do need to call the wedding off. What should I do?
Uncertain in Cincinnati
Glad you wrote in and, as always, I’ll do what I can to help. I think there is definitely a difference between normal, pre-wedding jitters and , “HOLY CRAP WHAT AM I DOING?” The trick for you is figuring out which of those this is. So here’s what I would suggest.