Life Lessons – Military Appreciation Month
*Are you happy at the moment?
Very much so!
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
You are not who people say you are- be it good or bad. When it comes criticism, always consider the source.
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
So far? That I should part my hair on the right.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
To finish reading at least two of the books on my nightstand
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Living for now and not worrying about what tomorrow brings.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Having a cup of tea. Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed, the boiling of the water, choosing the cup, waiting for it to steep… the whole process has a calming effect on me.
*What’s your biggest regret?
Not adopting another child.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
Independence. He can do laundry, grocery shop, pump gas and cook without a microwave!
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I’m extremely critical of myself.
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
Deciding to follow my heart and become a full time writer.
*When were you happiest?
I’m happiest right now. Back when I thought I was living the best days of my life, I realized I was just jumping from accomplishment to accomplishment and checking as many boxes as I could. Now, I’m doing what I love.
*What ten words best describe you?
Impulsive, passionate, writer, obsessive, thrifty, Motown-junkie, mom, driven, optimistic, survivor.
*What’s the most important thing you want civilians (or public) to know about Military families?
I want people to understand the mental and emotional sacrifices of the family members, as well as the soldier, sailor or Marine. When your spouse or significant other is deployed, it’s easy to throw yourself into work, children or community service but there are also those times when you’re alone with your thoughts and the realization hits that there’s a chance THEY MIGHT NOT COME HOME.
The children of servicemembers also deserve credit. They’re truly citizens of the world and able to adapt to any situation and make friends knowing that they will only see these friends for three years tops before they’re on to the next duty station. I know adults who can’t bear to live more than an hour from extended family.
You would think this would make military kids aloof and uncaring, but I’ve found them to be some of the most compassionate and mature children I’ve ever run across.
Kay Poiro is veteran, Navy spouse and mother to a teenage boy. She is also an award-winning, internationally produced screenwriter and playwright. Her plays have been performed across the United States and around the world, including London, Sydney, Toronto, India and Korea. In 2012, her feature script “Ridgeway Mystery Club” won Best Screenplay at the 8th Annual L.A. Femme Film Festival. Earlier this year, her stage play “The Twilight Jones” won Towne Street Theatre’s 10-minute play festival in Los Angeles. Join her on Twitter @delafantastika to talk writing, faith and fashion choices of Weather Channel meteorologists.