Life Lessons-Military Appreciation Month-
*Are you happy at the moment?
Absolutely. I’m living my truth and there is nothing better than that.
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16 year old self now – what would it be?
Not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay. Count yourself lucky to have one or two really good friends- that’s all you really need.
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
That if I’m determined to do it all, I’m not going to be able to do everything perfectly. Good enough is good enough. (See what I did there, Rene?)
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
As much as I loathe this word, it’s balance. As a business owner and mother who works from home, I am failing horribly at finding a way to blend my home life with my work life.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
I’d have to say having a healthy sense of humor. No matter how crazy life gets there’s always something to laugh about. That and wine.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
When I’m having a particularly challenging day I ask my girls for, what we call, a “recharge”. My girls and I wrap each other in a really, super tight, lengthy hug that seems to melt stress and bad juju away. It’s the ultimate clean slate and the best reminder of what truly matters in life.
*What’s your biggest regret?
I don’t do regrets. I believe that everything happens for a reason and everything has happened in my life has made me who I am today. I wouldn’t change a thing. Even the sucky stuff.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
That everyone makes mistakes, even Moms and Dads. The most important thing you can do when you make a mistake is to own it, learn from it, and try not to repeat it again.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
Not keeping a calendar. No matter how much technology I have, no matter how many apps I download, no matter how many cute-puppy calendars I keep, I am the worst calendar keeper in the known universe. Ask my mom.
*Aside from motherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
My other baby, MSB New Media. What started as a “wouldn’t it be cool” conversation with my business partner and friend, Carmen Grant, has grown into a profitable and growing digital media marketing and publishing company that is- get this- providing military spouses with real income and career opportunities in social media. Best. Feeling. Ever.
*When were you happiest?
As my girls would say, “Today is the best day of my life!” I’m doing my best to make that nugget of kid-wisdom that my reality. Every day I get to be with the people I love while engaging in work that feeds my soul is the happiest day of my life.
*What ten words best describe you?
Driven, empowering, organized, intuitive, adaptable, assertive, approachable, genuine, organized, and above all, jiggy.
*What’s the most important thing you want civilians (or public) to know about Military families?
In regards to military spouses, we are intimately connected to both the military and civilian communities. We are represent the 99% of Americans who are not actively serving in the military and the 1% who do. We are aware, sometimes painfully aware, of the issues weighing heavily on the minds of all Americans, like employment, educational policies, health care, and national security. We seek to understand and to be understood. We are not a cause. We are not helpless nor are we pining away at home waiting for our serving spouse to return home, though we miss them dearly when they are away. We are capable, fiercely independent, and self-reliant. We are here to build bridges to leave our country and communities better than the way we found it.
Adrianna Domingos-Lupher is a military spouse, mom of two awesomely different girls, lover of coffee, and is CEO and co-founder of MSB New Media. She is also the creator of NextGen MilSpouse, an online magazine for military spouses seeking to nurture their professional and personal goals while supporting their serving spouse’s military career.