Ask Rene:
Custody Concerns
(Editor’s Note: We thought that there was some great advice in this piece so we’ve re-blogged it, if you will, into our new format from it’s original air date of 7/16/2010.)
Dear Rene,
I have been a follower of yours for a long time and I think you give great advice. My dilemma is sort of a touchy subject.
I have a brother whose daughter is about to move out of state with her mother and two siblings (not my brother’s children) because she is not getting along with her current baby’s father. The problem with that is she has done this at LEAST three different times including one occasion where she actually left the children behind! To make matters worse, the mother is somewhat sickly and often is unable to care for her third child, a 10-month old baby girl. So my 9-year-old niece has a lot of responsibility.
My brother has no legal say-so in this matter. Should he? We don’t want to create a hostile or strained relationship with the mother, but we are worried about our niece who has told me she doesn’t want to go. I know her mother loves her but should my brother try to stop her from leaving the state with his child? Oh, we’ve tried talking to her and trying to convince her to stay already.
Thanks, Rene. Hope you can help with this one.
Anonymous, Any town, USA
Dear Anonymous:
Thanks for taking the time to write and I understand your wishes to remain anonymous given the touchy subject matter.
Okay I think there are two sides to this coin: The legal issues as well as the emotional ones.