Hola and HAPPY MONDAY!
I’m waking up on St. Simons Island, Georgia, getting ready to film day two of Sweet Retreats. There are some beautiful homes here and I can’t wait to show them to you. Make sure you like the Sweet Retreats Facebook page so you can follow along with all the places we’ve been.
One of my mottos is, “Everywhere you go, there you are.” In other words, you have to fully take in each experience, location and the people you find yourself with.
Nancia (and me) and Rasheeda, our Sweet Retreats Cast
Last night I was having dinner with our cast, Nancia and Rasheeda and we were talking about a lot of things. I was explaining to them how it was I found myself at this place in my life, spending so much time on the road, what my future plans were for Good Enough Mother and a couple of yet-to-be announced project I am working on.
Now, before I go on, I must preface this by saying I’m tired, having been on the road for the past week. I also have a cold so you know what I’m feeling is colored by those simple, but critical facts.
Anyway, as I as telling the ladies about what had transpired in my life over the past decade or so, I found myself longing for the old times; you know the ones with the large and steady paycheck, the expense account, the fancy clothes and restaurants. Then Nancia, a mental health professional, said something so simple yet utterly profound.
In so many words she basically said that in life, what you put out, you also get back.
If you think about negativity, negativity will come to you. If you think and expect the best, the best will come to you.
I’ve never been one to compare myself to others; my mother told me long ago that there will always be someone better or worse off than you. I get that. But every so often I do find myself comparing my present situation to my past. And that’s no good either.
Why? Well if we are being honest, we know what a whitewash we do of history; we never remember how things REALLY were, only the good stuff. When I look back on that big TV gig I had all those years ago, I think of the money. There was also a lot of stress and it was not the best working environment. My creativity was stifled and fear was a huge part of my every day life.
Oh and I wasn’t really happy.
See, it’s impossible to write the next chapter of your life if you’re still re-reading the last. So while I long for things to be well, less difficult, I also know there are no shortcuts; every single experience I have is meant for me to learn, live and grow through, even the difficult ones.
The point is, if you’re going to look back on the “good ol’ days” make sure the true picture is coming through.
So that’s today’s Monday Morning Motivation. So tell me, do you find yourself comparing your current situation to your past? If so, why and how do you keep moving forward?