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Ask Rene: Should I Forgive My Ex In Light Of THIS?

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Ask Rene:
Should I Forgive My Ex In Light Of THIS?

Rene, I’m between a rock and a hard place. My ex-husband and I divorced 16 years ago after five years of marriage. He was a liar and he was unfaithful. He was a much better father than husband. After we divorced, we worked as a team to raise our two kids. Now he is terminally ill and my children have asked me to care for him in his last days. He doesn’t have any other family. Rene, I don’t want to do this. I feel badly that my kids are losing their father, but I’m not interested in providing any comfort to him. My kids think I’m just being angry and bitter. Maybe I am. All I know is I have no interest in this task. My kids are asking way too much. Am I being unreasonable?

Still Bitter in Baltimore

Dear Still Bitter:

Before I answer this let me say, congratulations on putting your differences aside and working together to raise your children. But I can also say that if I were in your shoes I would totally feel the same way. While I would feel one way, I would act another.

So here’s what I would do if I were in your shoes.

Forgive Your Ex

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Nelson Mandela who was imprisoned wrongly for decades, once said, “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die.” The man who had every reason in the world to hate those who had done him wrong, refused to do so. It’s the same for you; you are going to have to do one of the most difficult things around… forgive someone who’s done you wrong. As hard as that is to do I would say living with hate in your heart is even harder. Let it go.


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