*Are you happy at the moment?
Absolutely. Because of the devastating loss I have experienced I have learned to be very present and grounded every day. I have a passion for my work that wakes me up every morning and excited more than I ever thought possible. I get to inspire and help so many people and that brings so much happiness in my heart. My new life, my life of second firsts, is a vibrant, different life. So yes, I am happy!
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
I would tell her to love herself more than anyone else.
I would tell her that she is so precious and so beautiful.
To not be afraid of anything.
And that she can do the impossible. The world is at her feet and she is so smart!!
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
I learned my own value for the first time. I am so worthy and my time is priceless. I closed the door to many relationships. The relationships that did not align with my values and beliefs. The relationships that held me back. I broke up with them. And since then, I have been surrounded by the most amazing people, the most amazing conversations and life!
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
That’s easy. A New York Times Best Seller, for my new book, Second Firsts: Live, Laugh and Love Again. This book has already helped thousands of people enter into their new lives, the life of second firsts and to achieve recognition from such a high and prestigious organization would be an honor. It would also help spread the word of life after loss and get the book into the hands of more people who need it most.
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Living my best life, everyday. And helping others do the same. That has been the foundation of my book since day one. It is to help people live the best lives they possibly can, every single day.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Well, I try and make it a ritual! If you take a look at my calendar, you will see a ‘workout’ scheduled, everyday at 9am. Working out keeps my mind clear and my thoughts in order. Whether it’s cardio or lifting weights, mentally and physically it is so important for me to take some personal time each day and do something for myself.
*What’s your biggest regret?
I don’t like the word ‘regret’ because if I regretted anything, then that would mean I would change something from my past. And if I changed something from my past, I wouldn’t be where I am today. And where I am today is at a place of tranquility and happiness….where my job is to help others get to that place. With no regrets.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
There is life after loss; and my kids experienced this first hand. After their father passed away, they were forced to grow up. At the tender ages of four and six my young daughters entered the life of second firsts. We all grew together from that and slowly learned how to fully live our lives again.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
I work too many hours.
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
Where I am today. Getting here was not at all easy and after two years of being in what I like to call ‘The Waiting Room’ I finally stepped out and am living this amazing, second life.
*When were you happiest?
I get to watch the sunrise every single morning and that is when I connect to my happiest self.
*What ten words best describe you?
Tough question! But I would say: Loving, life-starter, smart, motherly, entrepreneur, adventurous, sympathetic, traveler, thoughtful and brave.
Christina Rasmussen is on a crusade to change the way we live after loss. As the founder of Second Firsts, an organization to help people create a pathway back to life after loss, Christina spends her time speaking, coaching, and helping thousands of people rebuild, reclaim, and relaunch their lives using the most powerful tool for personal reinvention: the human mind. Her personal story and fresh approach to life after loss has garnered international attention. She writes for the Huffington Post, has been featured as a Woman Working to Do Good in the White House Blog, and she was named the Leading Mom in Business by StartupNation. Her first book, Second Firsts: Live, Laugh and Love Again, has achieved bestseller status on both Amazon and Barnes and Noble. You can also sign up to receive her weekly newsletter, the “Message in a Bottle,” by visiting www.secondfirsts.com. You can also find her on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/Secondfirsts or on Twitter @Secondfirsts.