Make-Up Misery With My Tween
Here’s my problem!
I’m in the middle of a full-blown battle with my daughter at the moment over the issue of make up!
Claire is 12 years old and I just don’t think it’s appropriate for a girl that age to wear make-up. But of course she’s responding with the ‘everyone else is wearing it’ line and casting me as the worst mother in the world for holding back her budding social life.
I’m an ‘older’ mother – I’m in my early 50’s – so I sometimes worry that I’m out of touch with the times. What do you think Rene? What are your make up rules for Casey?
Desperately in need of advice!
I think there is a way to strike a balance here. On the surface this is a discussion about make-up but it’s really about your little girl growing up and trying to exercise a bit of individuality.
With that in mind, I have three suggestions:
THE HYGIENE CONVERSATION
A discussion about make-up should really be part of a larger conversation on personal hygiene. You can teach Claire that you can’t put make up over a dirty face so we start with teaching how to properly cleanse and moisturize. This could also open the door for the shaving/deodorant discussion, the latter of which seems woefully underutilized in this age group!