How Do I Stop This Boy From
Breaking My Daughter’s Heart?
My daughter’s 18-year-old boyfriend keeps cheating. I don’t know how to help her to stop caring about him. He has had sex with 3 others, ages 15 to 17 just in the past month. He uses sweet talk, shall I say, and the 15-year-old was a virgin and feels horrible, so she told my daughter. She has lost weight and is crying but won’t tell me the details.
I can’t imagine what is being said to her to keep her trying to forgive him. She is a beautiful, white girl and he is an 18-year-old black scum. He has caused so much pain to these girls and is not going to stop.
I can’t just let this happen. She seems to be in denial or it’s something else.
What am I to do? I’m considering a restraining order as one girls’ parents are discussing statutory rape. He was charged years ago for this and had to change schools.
When I met him I asked about his father. He shared his father had a pregnant girl friend when his mom was pregnant with him and he didn’t stay with either of them.
Is this a generic flaw? He can’t crush my girl anymore.
Confused in Connecticut
I can hear the hurt and frustration in your letter and there’s a part of me that sympathizes with you. I think this young man is bad news, especially in light of the fact that he’s run afoul of the law before. But I also hear a whole lot more, which I believe, undermines your case to your daughter.
Having said that, here’s what I would do if I were you.