Surprise?—Robin Thicke And Paula Patton Separating (POLL)
Singer Robin Thicke, 36, and actress Paula Patton, 38 announced yesterday that they are separating. They married in 2005 and have one son born in 2010.
In a statement issued to the media, they said, “We will always love each other and be best friends, however, we have mutually decided to separate at this time.”
Thicke and Patton’s relationship has been under a microscope ever since the controversy surrounding his provocative performance with Miley Cyrus at the Video Music Awards last summer. Later that evening, he was photographed with his hand on a fan’s rear end. Patton has repeatedly said the behavior didn’t bother her.
When the music video to Thicke’s hit song “Blurred Lines” was released, many people thought Patton would be uncomfortable with all the nude models dancing with her husband, but she insisted that wasn’t the case. She said, “I watched that video and I was a little bit jealous and then I wanted to jump his bones. I was like, ‘I want to take you down right now.’ That’s how I know it’s a hit.”
Given the complexity of marriage and the divorce rate in this country, nobody should be surprised when a couple, especially a couple in the entertainment industry, decides it’s over.
Few Hollywood relationships have lasted as long as Thicke and Patton’s, though. They met more than 20 years ago when they were in high school. I rooted for their relationship before they married because they knew each other long before either of them enjoyed success as entertainers. There’s something about high school sweethearts that I find endearing.
I try not to be judgmental about marriages other than my own. I’ve learned that every marriage is a mystery to everybody except the two people in it—and some of it’s still a mystery even to the couple in it.
Still, here comes my judgment. In more recent years, there was something that made me a little uncomfortable about the way Patton and Thicke would discuss their relationship. In particular, Thicke would publicly say things that are nobody’s business. Two years ago, he gave this interview with Essence magazine, in which he talked about giving Patton “double-digit orgasms.”
I’m sure some of us reveal things about our relationships to close friends that we would not announce to the world. Some Hollywood couples, in an effort to give fans what they want, say more than they should about private matters. It makes me wonder if that’s part of the problem here. Well, that and Thicke’s propensity for touching other women.
We all make concessions in our relationships. Perhaps it’s part of some unspoken contract that in a Hollywood relationship, both parties will do and say things that most of us would find objectionable if our partners did the same. For example, it’s work when actors do love scenes together. Their partners have to be okay with that. Maybe some are okay with it until it isn’t okay—until a line is crossed. Maybe one too many lines were blurred in the Thicke/Patton relationship.
What do you think? Did Paula Patton and Robin Thicke’s relationship get pushed to the edge because of his behavior? Take the poll and share your thoughts.
Alexis Trass Walker lives in Gary, Indiana, with her husband and four children. She is managing editor of Good Enough Mother. Read more about Alexis on her blog www.lilliebelle.org or follow her on Twitter @LillieBelle5. You can email her at alexis [at] goodenoughmother [dot] com.