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Monday Morning Motivation: How To Get Through Tough Times? Don’t Ask THIS Question!

Questions on a green school boardMonday Morning Motivation:
How To Get Through Tough Times?
Don’t Ask THIS Question!


Hello from a snowy Monday here in New York. Yes, I’m actually home for a change, a brief respite from traveling all over the country for Sweet Retreats and Exhale.

Before I get into today’s Monday Morning Motivation, can we just talk about winter for a second? Our last shoot was in Memphis; travel there was challenging, we shot in temperatures that hovered in the low 20’s and it SNOWED on our way out of there!


Screen Shot 2014-02-08 at 11.02.21 PM.jpgMemphis, not Minneapolis!

One of the things that got us through was knowing that our next filming location is in Puerto Rico! Make sure to follow me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter  for snaps from our adventures there. Hey, if you have to work, might as well be in the sand and sun, no?

So for today’s Monday Morning Motivation, I want to tell you about someone I met recently. While filming Exhale, I had an opportunity to interview Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center in Los Angeles. He’s one of those people who has such a calming spirit that he is truly a pleasure to be around. I was mesmerized by his lilting tone but what he said hit me right between the eyes.

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We were talking about how to successfully navigate some of life’s most pressing challenges; job loss, illness, death, marriage, moving, divorce, you know the drill. When I told him a little about the things I had been through the past several years, his response sort of hung in the air, so real, so obvious yet a strategy I did not use.

“It’s all in the type of questions you ask,” said Dr. Beckwith. “Instead of asking, Why me? Why is this happening to me? you should ask, What am I supposed to be learning from this experience?”

Do you see the difference? I didn’t then but I do now.

Asking “Why me?” is a more passive approach, like things are happening to you and you have no control over the outcome. Asking “What am I supposed to be learning from this experience?” puts the onus back where it belongs… on you. You are in charge, you are in control, you are learning.

You see?

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In looking back over my own experience (or, rather metamorphosis), I know a couple of things. I know the creative side of me would have remained dormant had I still been in my TV News job. I also know that owning my own business/brand, filming TV shows, traveling and caring for a family, while incredibly hard, is also the most rewarding thing I have ever done.

When I look back at the beginning of my “challenges” there’s a part of me that wishes I had asked more empowering questions; I worry that I wasted a lot of time and energy when I should have been taking notes on what I was supposed to be learning from life.. the ultimate teacher.

The good news? I won’t do that again.

What about you? When hard times hit, do you ask empowering questions? Or do you stick to the standard, Why me?


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