*Are you happy at the moment?
VERY! My life is fuller and more complete than I ever thought would be possible!
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
You truly can do ANYTHING you dream of. Do not allow fears stop you from following your dreams and deepest desires. Don’t worry about what others may think or say about you, because they will NOT matter in the big picture of your life. Step out of your box and try everything you may be interested in. Too often we allow others to tell us what we should or should not do, especially during our high school years and I so wish I would have had the confidence to know how much potential I had. I needed to be more secure in myself, my abilities, my looks, and in general what I had to offer.
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
You have to love yourself before you can be loved and in order to do this you must truly know yourself. Once you know you then what you most likely find is the most wondrous woman living inside of you. Once you love yourself you let go of all the world thinks of you and you find how to live the life you were destined for and this is when you enjoy utter bliss.
I am happily divorced after 17 years and I have never been happier. It did not happen overnight and in fact it took me years to leave my marriage and then several more to become whole again. I had to learn everything over including who I was. I had to be alone, which was very lonely at times, but it was necessary to come out the other end. I had to figure out how to take care of myself, my home, my pets, my bills, everything. I forced myself to go out in public alone. I went to concerts, to the river, to dinner, the movies, the park, and even on vacation. Doing this allowed me to have the greatest love affair imaginable, with myself. I really learned who I was and what I enjoyed. Knowing who I was allowed me to know what I valued, what ticked me off, what made me sad, how I wanted to spend my time, money, and so much more. Being single was the hardest and best experience of my life. I learned things I would not otherwise know and now I am free to allow someone else love me. I won’t settle and the man that gets me will have someone that s whole and not only responsible but capable of taking care of herself so that she is free to be a true partner, friend, and lover.
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I am focused on taking Wondrous Women in the direction I always had set out to and I am listening to and trusting me to make that happen. For the past few years I have allowed other people to steer the direction of my nonprofit and business and now I feel like I have come full circle. I have tried several different directions and all have been rewarding but not always fulfilling the reason I launched my blog and business.
I am refocused on my initial desires for launching the blog and programming associated with Wondrous Women which is for college women and young professionals. I want to design a community and network that helps this population to have the confidence they need to be their very best. I am doing this with my writings (hoping to release 2 more books in 2014) and I am creating a membership site to help my young women be poised and polished in their professional pursuits. I am finalizing the creation of an online forum where our young women can depend on us for advice, support, mentoring, and networking while pursuing their professional aspirations. Eventually I want Wondrous Women to grow into a worldwide community where likeminded women can come together and rely on one another for all that we need, professionally and personally, to allow the wondrousness that lives deep within each of us shine from the inside out!
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Smiling. Reminding myself, daily, of all the blessings in my life. Staying present in every moment. Loving others and the work that I am honored to get to do. Recognizing that we are always impacting others, so walk through every day being the person that is leaving the impression you want to be known for. Being grateful and positive and sharing that with every person and thing you encounter.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
When I feel off kilter I must get very quiet and go to the river. There I can be still and feel like I can breathe and think clearly. I allow any worries to wash downstream while I refuel from the energy in the beauty and quiet that surrounds and embraces me. Sometimes I can just walk near the water and I am healed other times it can take hours to feel centered and rejuvenated to keep moving forward! No matter how long, I simply allow myself to soak up the sun and shimmering reflections while I still my mind, heart, and soul.
*What’s your biggest regret?
I do not have any regrets as I refuse to live a life of regrets. I know there are things that others would hope I would say are regrets because I may have hurt people along my journey, but unfortunately those were moments I needed to be better than I knew possible. I am sorry someone else had to hurt because of me, but I still can’t say that I regret any decisions.
Even the worst things that have happened to me in life were for a reason. I learn from all lessons presented. Even when I have made bad choices or mistakes, they were valuable experiences and opportunities. It is all of life’s experiences that have allowed me to be who I am today and so I am grateful for all of it.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
I do not have children myself, but I have always tried to teach my college students and those very special children in my life to “speak their reality.” Whatever you say or think will become your truth. If you say you can then you can and you will. Our thoughts and words dictate our direction, so be very careful what you say to yourself and the world.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
Being my worst critic. I am always harsher on myself than anyone else. I have such high standards and expectations and even when I meet them or exceed them I forget to praise and love myself for my accomplishments. Sometimes I am so heavily enthralled in my work that it literally engulfs me and I forget to step back and simply enjoy the hard work that is paying off!
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
Wondrous Women and the work that I do with college students. I want women to believe in themselves in all aspects of life and I know I am making a difference with those that I have the pleasure of teaching and serving.
*When were you happiest?
I am happiest right now and life just seems to get better and better.
*What ten words best describe you?
Wondrous Woman, Hard Working, Giver, Mentor, Positive, Influential, Positive, Inspirational.
Amy Lance is an Author, Blogger, Motivational Speaker, University Instructor, College Administrator, & Founder of Wondrous Women. She is a nationally recognized advising administrator within her professional association & she frequently consults professionals across the country on best practices. Additionally, she has 16 years of experiences teaching Leadership, Gender Communication, Public Speaking, etc. As founder of Wondrous Women, she has published her own book, co-authored chapters of books, speaks nationally as a motivational speaker & blogs every Wondrous Wednesday all of which is designed to encourage, inspire, motivate, & empower all women to recognize all that makes them wondrous. You can find Amy on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest too!