Tales From A Twin Mom:
Make a Twin Parent Smile Today
I was recently alone at the mall when I came across a young mother with her twins. Of course, having twins myself and time to kill that afternoon, I decided to walk over to her to start a little chat. Unfortunately, 2.5 seconds into the conversation I noticed one thing that made me feel a little sad. Parents of multiples (twins or higher order) are approached so many times by strangers that we have come to consider it a nuisance to have someone ask us about our children. It’s not that we are intentionally mean, but having people ask you the same questions over and over again can get a little tiresome.
Do I blame her? Not really. I remember discovering I was asked fewer questions if I walked around without making eye contact. Sad? Yes, very. When I had singletons (that’s what we parents of multiples call those born without a partner in crime), I loved it when people stopped to ask me about them. It was so refreshing! Maybe it was because not every conversation started with “Are they twins?” Or, maybe it was the fact that no one would approach me as I was holding my child to say “Better you than me!” Yes, stranger. Better me than you. I agree.
I believe that maybe if the outside world changed their views or comments, we would be more inclined to stop and chat. How many times have you stared at a woman with a double stroller and just admired how she could open the door and get through it all by herself? News flash… we don’t enjoy doing it-and could really use a hand.
In an effort to promote world peace, I have come up with alternatives for the most common questions: