*Are you happy at the moment?
Yes! I am very happy and feel exactly like I am where I am supposed to be~ Now that doesn’t mean I do not have days where I feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and in need of more energy! As a woman, mom of 4, life coach, and wife, I work hard at being happy and feeling whole…
*If you could go back and say anything to your 16-year-old self now – what would it be?
1) Stop wasting precious time worrying what others think~ plus, we need some awkward pictures to look back at with our girlfriends at 40…what else are we going to pee our pants over? 2) Stop complaining you are fat, because one day, way too soon, that “fat” body will be the skinny, firm one you wish you had now 3) Stop thinking things are black and white; Girl meets boy, girl marries boy, they live happily ever after. Life is full of all the gray areas in the middle. Beautiful, crazy, amazing, sometimes sad & wonderful shades of gray 4) Pay more attention to your parents and grandparents: love them more, hug them more, ask for their advice more, because you will miss them more than you can ever imagine, when they are gone 5) Show up, be you, and have a fricken blast! Listen to your life, embrace your vulnerability, love with abandon, trust your intuition, take a chance each and every time one is offered, and never, ever, for one second, lose the connection to your sisterhood of girlfriends.
*What’s the most important thing you’ve learned this year?
To let go deeply. In my profession I help empower women to let go on a regular basis: to let go of the past, to let go of the future so they can be in the moment, to let go of the way they thought it would (should) be, to let go of a toxic relationship………So for me I come by it somewhat naturally. However, within the last 20 months, I had my 4th child (my oldest is almost 16), sold our home of 15 years, moved into an apartment, built and moved into our new home, and my dad was very, very ill for 6 months. So…. I had to learn to let go deeply. Deeper than ever before. Let go of how I thought this phase of my life was going to be. Let go of trying to be completely present in the building process. Let go of making the school events and let go of the worry, guilt and sometimes fear, over the unknown. As a result, I opened up space within me to accept and allow the flow of this crazy, chaotic, scary, and wonderful part of my life to just be. As a result, of learning to let go deeply, I was in my life over the last 20 months and I learned that it’s pretty darn good!
*What do you most want to achieve in the next 12 months?
I most want to get the second phase of my business up and running strong… I know you said elaborate, but I can’t give all my secrets away ☺
*What’s your secret to happiness?
Connection. To my husband, to my family, to my sisterhood of girlfriends, to my faith AND laughing a lot; at myself, at my life, at this amazing journey of woman/parenthood.
*What one ritual or practice keeps you grounded?
Morning coffee, talking with God, and reading.
*What’s your biggest regret?
That I didn’t practice letting go of all of the bulls#@% sooner…ya know, life is funny, we spend a lot of time worrying, wishing, and wondering (at least I did in my 20’s), then one day, you kind of just wake up and say: Wow this is it! I better jump in and be the key player in my own life, I only have such a short time. If not now when? Why not? And all of that stuff….So wasting time caring too much what others thought/would think, is my biggest regret.
*What’s the most important lesson you’ve taught your kid(s)?
I hope it is that at the end of the day, it all begins and ends with people, God, and connection. We are here on this earth to connect, to do service and help others. And when we get or learn, it is our duty to give back and teach.
*What bad habit would you most like to change about yourself?
Just one, lol?! I chew ice..it wouldn’t be too bad if everyone couldn’t hear me and if my teeth didn’t hurt from it after…and secondly, running late. I really need to work on that.
*Aside from motherhood/fatherhood and marriage what are you most proud of in your life?
Writing & publishing my book. I have been blessed with many amazing things, but bar none, aside from motherhood & marriage, writing Plug in Your Kick Ass Life is my proudest. I have never, ever, worked so hard and believed so strongly in the message I had for my readers. To actually get emails saying “I keep it on my bed stand and read/reread it every night” or “Your book changed my life, I only wish I had it 5 years ago when I was in therapy”. Yep, single handedly, I am most proud of that.
*When were you happiest?
•I am the most at peace first thing in the morning…coffee and reading/praying.
•I am happiest when my family is all well.. (and as my mom always said “ a mother is only as happy as her least happy child”) being a mom is one of those things in my life that can still catch me off guard, take my breath away, and truly amaze me.
•I am in my zone of genius (in coaching) when I help a woman shift her mindset in order to uncover her truth, her passion and her purpose in life
*What ten words best describe you?
Passionate, gutsy, caring, courageous, dreamer, intelligent, devoted, a pioneer, powerful, connector.
Denuelle Meyer is a Life Coach and Author, who empowers women to live the life of their dreams by owning their truth~ Denuelle can be found at www.DenuelleMeyer.com.