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In The Name Of Humor?

Should You?

It may have been 37 years ago, but I can still hear the words of a friend as if I had just run into her.  I had just given birth to my first child and after a week of sleep deprivation, various body parts with a mind of their own, 60-second showers, if I could get to the shower, and all the other postpartum secrets that they keep locked up like Fort Knox, I had finally achieved the ultimate – I was able to get out of the house and go to the grocery store. While standing in the produce aisle, trying desperately to remember exactly what it was that I was supposed to be shopping for, I ran into an old friend who I hadn’t seen in years.

After the exchange of the obligatory small talk and pleasantries, she hit me with the statement that would rock me to me core “ So when again is your baby due?” Anyone who has ever had a baby, or knows someone who has knows that after bringing a new life into the world, a woman is a bit on the emotional side, to say the least. Somehow, I summoned the forces from within and kept my composure as I meekly responded “I had my daughter last week.  So great to see you again – let’s keep in touch.”  I then did what anyone would do – I rounded the corner to the next aisle, walked away from my cart and walked out of the store and to the safety of my car where I proceeded to sob uncontrollably.

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A few weeks ago, actress Alyssa Milano had her own grocery store moment with actor Jay Mohr.  In case you missed it, Jay took it upon himself  and, as one can only assume was a feeble attempt at making himself look witty, seized on what he thought was a golden opportunity to take a jab at Alyssa at an awards show in Las Vegas. During a radio interview at the NASCAR Sprint Cup Series Awards ceremony, Mohr said this:

“She was one of the presenters. … She’s very tiny. In height,” he said. “It seems like she had a baby and said, ‘I don’t really give a s—’ … I read it on her gut.”

Mohr had been hit with a velvet hammer.  Milano, instead of taking the path I did and dissolving into a heap, took the high road, and in doing so, got the last and only laugh with this Tweet:


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So now that apologies have been made and accepted, the actors have made their peace with one another and life goes on, I still can’t help but wonder if 37 years down the road, Alyssa will still be hearing Jay’s unsolicited opinion burning in the back of her mind. Only time will tell.

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Nonetheless, the actress clearly showed grace and class and the Internet (figuratively) applauded, flooding Milano with  support and well-wishes. Apparently,  Mohr, humbled by Milano’s response apologized on Twitter, giving Milano yet another opportunity to show she’s got humor to go with that grace and class.

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One can only hope that Mohr learned his lesson. But the larger question (and he used this in response to some of the backlash) is… can people say anything if they follow it quickly by, “It was a joke.” ?

Well GEMnation, what say you?

Gayle Feldman Turner
Mom to 5, Grammy to 4, Gayle considers herself an ordinary person living a most extraordinary life. The owner and co-founder of The Disney Gals website, her great passion in life is children. When not in her kindergarten classroom or directing her latest musical production, you’ll find her blogging, planning her next great Disney adventure or following her youngest son as he follows his dreams of dancing.