Will This Atlantic City Escape Mean The End?
My husband lost his job about six months ago. As you can imagine, it has been rough financially and emotionally. In the beginning, my husband was very positive about his prospects of finding a new job. But as time passes, he is more despondent. A group of his friends suggested a trip to Atlantic City to cheer him up. Of course, they’re not paying for him; they just think it’s a great idea. This trip is completely unaffordable for us right now. We are behind on every bill and have cut back on nearly everything just to buy groceries. My husband plans on going to Atlantic City and will put everything on a credit card. Uh, hello? We’re going to go further in this hole! Maybe it’s the anger talking, but I’m considering divorce. What can I do to resolve this?
Unlucky In Utah
Dear Unlucky In Utah,
Oh, this is a tough one.
On the one hand, you can handle this by just not agreeing, which is tricky in a marriage. Relationships need to have compromise as part of its make-up. But I think there’s an added layer in this situation–your husband’s job loss. As someone who has lost a job, I can tell you it’s about more than that; it’s also like losing your moorings. As difficult as it is for a woman, I’ve heard it’s even more so for a man. As you can see (and already know), there’s a lot going on here.
The question is how to handle it? So, here’s what I would do if I were you.