I’m 28 and I have two older, half-sisters. We have the same father and I am the product of an affair our father had when he was married to my sisters’ mother. My dad and mom eventually married after he and his first wife divorced. This weekend, my parents want to get the whole family together for dinner. My father’s first wife and her husband are coming over. This is all very strange for me. I’m not looking forward to seeing my sisters, as they have never been kind to me. The nicest thing that I can say about my relationship with them is that it has always been distant. They seem to blame me personally for breaking up their family. How can I get through dinner?
Dreading Dinner in Davis
Dear Dreading Dinner: I don’t want to talk badly about your father but…
So let me get this straight. Your dad uses poor judgment and has an affair. A baby results from said affair. Now, nearly three decades later he wants to act like this is normal and you all are one big happy family?
I’m not sure how you’d handle it but here’s what I would do if I were you.