Good Enough Mother:
Year End, Ahem.. Work…
3 Check-Ups You Need, Mom!

Not long ago, someone asked me what my kids thought about Good Enough Mother. Not the person (we KNOW how they feel about her), rather the site and the things I write about. When they were younger, Casey and Cole didn’t care so much. It’s a little touchier now, especially since a lot of their real friends follow me online.

So it is with an eye on my children’s modesty (not mine, of course) that I say this:

This post address some things that may make some people uncomfortable.

You have been warned.

So off we go.

I need you, at this moment, to think of me as a 1963 Cadillac; got a few miles on her but need to know she’s still operating as she should. So the first stop was to—–>


Dentist chair tools closeup on the dryer

I work in TV so it’s important that my teeth look good. But due to a hiccup in our insurance coverage, it had been over a year  since the kids and I had been in the chair.  It was not pretty. Cavities. 1 for me (along with a filling replacement) and a couple between the kids. Speaking of a couple between, that’s exactly where they were.. all BETWEEN the teeth and found on x-Rays.

What’s the lesson? Brushing is not enough.. you must also floss! I know your dentist tells you.. know you’re hearing it from good enough mother.

When to see dentist? Once every 6 months, every 3 if you have gum disease.

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womens health road sign illustration design over white

How often do you need to get those lady bits looked at? Once a year and it’s about as much fun as the twice yearly dental dates. But it’s SO necessary. Finding a problem early is worth the few minutes of discomfort or embarrassment. At this last visit, I scored again; I had the pleasure (insert sarcasm)  of having to go back for a sonogram. I won’t go into detail here, but suffice it to say the technician was a young man with no sense of humor. When I walked into the exam room, he introduced the woman sitting int he corner as our chaperone, Jennie.

“Oh are we going somewhere?”  I nervously joked.


Not even a grin.

There were two things that were going to make this trip to even slightly more bearable, wine and/or  laughter. I got neither.

When to see the gynecologist? Once a year. Make sure to talk about breast health and/or a mammogram with her or him.

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The doctor puts on latex gloves on his hands.

As you are reading this, I am either on my way to the hospital, being sedated, being scoped, recovering or on my way home from my colonoscopy. This is the second one I have had; the first was years ago in my 40’s. But now at 50, the gynecologist insisted I have another. In case you don’t know, a colonoscopy consists of snaking a tube with a camera on the end through the rectum and the entire length of the large colon. Doctors examine the health of the tissue and can snip off polyps at that time, before they become cancerous. Okay, fair warning: these things are not pleasant (the prep is the hardest part, IMHO) but than 140,000 people are diagnosed with colorectal cancer each year and more than 40,000 will die from the disease.

How often should you have a colonoscopy? Once every 10 years beginning at age 50, unless you have a family history.

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Of course there are a number of other tests that should be included just as a matter of course for you to stay healthy but these are a few that I’ve experienced over the last couple of months.

And just one more note: I can’t tell you how many times I see women say, “I just don’t have time to do those things; I’m busy taking care of everyone else.” Listen and repeat after me: Taking care of you IS taking care of your family. See your doctor and dentist when you’re supposed to, let them poke prod, fill cavities so you’ll be around for your family a good, long time.

Okay, your turn and be honest. When was the last time you saw the dentist? The gynecologist? Are you being as good to you as you are to others?