I have a 12-year-old daughter who is acting out and has no respect for us. She is always cranky and very disrespectful when she speaks to us. As a baby she was very difficult and, as a result I suffered post-natal depression which I believe affected our bond. I find it really difficult to get close to her and comfort her the way a good mother should.
She is showing a lot of interest in boys and is posting a lot of sexy pics on Instagram of herself seeking compliments from others particularly boys. I’m at a loss as far as what to do; it is breaking our family to the point where my husband told her to pack her things and get out.
Please help me I feel like a huge failure as a mother.
Distraught in Denver
First things first; you are not a failure. How do I know this? Because motherhood is not a contest. You are not being judged (at least by anyone who matters) and there is no finish line, nor is there a right or a wrong way to do things. Having said that, I feel your pain; the doubt and frustration is evident in your letter. It’s not too late, but I think you need to get super serious right now. Here’s what I would do.